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Original poster

Paranoid Mum -Moi??? never......[blush]

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 11/01/2006 18:09

Ok so I am a paranoid mum but this school nursery stuff is very new to me

DS has come home today with a permission slip asking if he can go on a walk to the postbox to post a letter with the nursery. Which sounds lovely and he will enjoy it...but

I'll be letting him out with adults that I dont know (I think there will be a couple of parent helpers) and I have only 'known' the teacher 2 days and even then I only know her as Ms xxxxx and what if he runs into the road? Or gets lost? Or someone snatches him?

I know I am being paranoid and ober sensitive but I am tempted not to sign the form. Please reassure me that he will be totally fine.

Hes 3.5 Btw.

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rummum · 11/01/2006 18:40

The other mums definately won't talk to you if send his reins in....

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 11/01/2006 19:08

alright alright alright he can go

Would never have heard the end of it if i didnt let him! And no reins...{anxious mother expression}

Just be forwarned that when he goes I will be on here panicing and you had better all sit and post reassuring things and be really nice to poor me

Have talked to DS and he cant wait. He keeps saying how much he loves nursery

(still dont like strangers being responsible for my baby though mutter mutter )

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WigWamBam · 11/01/2006 19:12

Tamba, he'll be fine. It's just the first little step towards letting him go - it's a step he has to take, and so do you. It's probably more difficult for you because he's only just started and it makes it feel as if it's all moving too fast; next time will be a bit easier (and yes, there will be a next time!).

I still hate dd being at school - she seems so little to be standing on her own two feet and not having me there to protect her - but it has to happen.

You can panic and blub about it all you like ... just do it here, and not somewhere that your ds can pick up on your anxiety.

marthamoo · 11/01/2006 19:13

You wait 'til he gets invited to a quad biking birthday party, Tamba (my current dilemma). You will long for the days of a school trip to the postbox.

rummum · 11/01/2006 19:13

I am doing my NVQ3 in childcare and education, and I'm doing a module (P2) about working with parents and how do parents feel about leaving their children...

can I quote you in it...

"still dont like strangers being responsible for my baby though mutter mutter"

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 11/01/2006 19:15

lol quote away

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Twiglett · 11/01/2006 19:15

Optional Title for Tamba's 'My DS is taking his life in his hands on a hazardous trek to the Post Box' thread

gomez · 11/01/2006 19:17

Tamba I am actually a bit that you have reins for a 3.5 year old. Sorry!

kid · 11/01/2006 19:20

How about if you follow them? That way you can reassure yourself that they are looking after your baby.

I'm not the best person to answer thsis question. DD is almost 7 and I have so far been on virtually every school trip with her. I change my days at work just so I can go.

Its got harder for me to get the days off to attend Ds's (he is 3.8) trips though. I know his teachers very well as I work in his school but I also know how naughty DS can be so I would prefer to be there and look after him myself. I had to let him go to the library with his nursery class every week and there was nothing I could do. He even had to cross over 2 roads. I was so relieved when I saw him arrive back at school in one piece. The first trip is always the hardest, if you can survive that, you will be fine.

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 11/01/2006 19:44

Gomez, He hasnt actually used the reins for about a year I just didnt trust the people watching him to watch him close enough to stop him running in the road and thought if i at least have them hold his reins then it cant happen... paranoid mums thought process

lol twiglet first of many now me and ds have moved into this uncharted nursery teratory!!

Dh just came home and I told him and he looked at me in amazment... "you mean the postbox that is 2 minutes from the school ????"... so he will definatly be going!

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Twiglett · 11/01/2006 19:44

think you should also change your name

TambaThePussy???

TambaThePussy · 11/01/2006 19:46

I dont think im quite ready to slay dragons

Aloha · 11/01/2006 19:46

Littlefish · 11/01/2006 19:46

Tamba, just to reassure you further, the nursery will almost certainly have done a risk assessment of the hazardous journey to the dangerous post box. They will have detailed every possible eventuality - especially the chance of a runner. They will be carrying mobile phones and the ratio will be something like one adult to every 2 or 3 children.

I hate taking the children out on school trips because I never relax, not even for a second, because I feel such a huge sense of responsibilty because I am looking after other people's children. I've been teaching for 10 years, and I still feel like this!

All this is meant to reassure you that we take it as seriously as you do.

misdee · 11/01/2006 19:48

Tamba i was a parent-helper in one of dd1 nursery trips to the bakers. we went in small groups, and i had 2 children to watch. so we walked together, i held a hand each to cross the rd, and we got there safely and back safely. does that make you feel better yet?

TambaThePussy · 11/01/2006 19:49

Do you think its OTT to make him wear reflective clothing and knee pads?????

(thats a joke btw )

Oh well, at least if nothing else I can laugh at myself

Art · 11/01/2006 20:18

TTDS - you sound like me! I could not sign the form for ds (2.5) to go off the premises at nursery whan he first started as I couldnt trust him to walk without darting off etc. and was far too panicky, but I made myself sign it as he got older because I did not want him to be singled out. If you are comfortable with the nursery staff and the way they run things, as everyone else has said, you've got to let go.
I have just had to sign the form for dd now (5m) and found that even harder although how I think she will be able to run off or dart into the road from a pram I dont know!

getbakainyourjimjams · 11/01/2006 20:22

Why's he on reins at 3 and a half? DS1 is occasionally on reins at 6 but that';s because he 's severely autistic and has challenging behaviours and I have younger children to manage (altho ugh nhe goes all over the place with school without reins). WILL read reast of thread now!

Clayhead · 11/01/2006 20:25

I have done these trips with dd's Pre-School and they're ace! I also have 2 kids, one in each hand, but not dd.

Going to help is a good idea too, maybe not this time , but in the future. You get to see how well organised things are (and how well behaved your child is for others )

TambaThePussy · 11/01/2006 20:38

He hasnt worn the reins for about a year as he is always well behaved when i take him out, asking the nursery staff if i could bring them along was me being paranoid and daft

I dont know the nursery staff or have any particualr views on how its run as this is only his 3rd day although it has just scored 'outstanding' in its ofsted report.

Im sure he will have a lovely time....

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