is this fair?

[chipkid]

Today I saw one of the mothers with a child in reception year at the same school as DS looking very upset. Her Ds had been involved in some "naughty" behaviour in the playground with another classmate. Both boys were told off but failed to take this seriously-until the head teacher became involved. The mother of the other boy involved in the behaviour was saying that she had told her son not to play with this boy and that other people were saying the same.
I feel that this is terrible. This is a small prep school with two classes of 15 children, most of whom are aged 4-5. I think it is terrible to isolate this boy for what can only be described as high jinks in the playground. Does anybody agree?

yes i do agree... sounds like she is trying to shift the blame onto the other boy...

It does sound a bit mean, but it depends on what occurred. My DD goes to school with a very violent boy (he has special needs) and he has punched her in the face - totally unprovoked, DH was present and saw everything. I tell my DD to keep away from him.

She should grow up. Poor little mite

I agree. It's also counter-productive. If he's going to be treated like a menace, he'll fulfill the expectations and behave like one.

DS2 (reception) was smacked repeatedly in the face by same age boy last night. OK he hit him back but was very upset. Today, they're fine with each other. Myself and his childminder told said boy off and he's ok today. They're so very young and also very tired at this age.

the behaviour involved doing an outside wee in the playground and then laughing about it! these are 4 year old boys for heavens sake

sorry but I bet his teacher even had a secret snigger.

Oh don't ya just love little boys eh?

my thoughts exactly-hardly a hanging offence is it?

It's only a hanging offence when you're 18 and you walk down an alley and your mate's pissed up bf is having a p!$$ and turns round to say hello and wees on you I can laugh now 19 years later but at the time!!!

pmsl!!!!-hope you weren't wearing suede shoes!!

Sadly, if a child this young is ignored by his peers, he'll start to crave attention more and this could result in him becoming more naughty. Hope this doesn't happen.

will not see this mum tomorrow as I am escaping home overnight-and then it is half-term, thought I would take a letter into school to be passed on to her just asking her to call me for a chat as I can imagine how she feels (my ds is no angel there for the grace of god....) do you think that would be helpful?

i think that's a really nice idea chipkid!

omg, my sons would obviously be social outcasts at this school!