hi peardrops - sorry to have taken so long to reply
My daughter has settled in very well indeed and is almost stupendously happy there. The staff - the students - her room-mates - the lessons - both academic and musical are all brilliant.
The evening and weekend events are fun - the chance to go out with pals to Manchester - having lived in a tiny village all her life - suits her. The other children there are very friendly and not at all hierarchical even though say one of her best friends is abroad winning competitions even at the age of 12 - she just gets pictures back from obscure places and its all taken with a pinch of salt. They all love music and enjoy where-ever each other is at.
One friend who happened to join at the same time who like her was home educated (but for far longer) resists all the many demands and so is being sanctioned regularly in various ways - as the work load is indeed huge. After 5 hours a day practising all week there are 5 hour ensemble sessions on saturday and many different pieces of music to learn as well as home work and other demands. Practice is enforced by the praccies - invigilators who monitor that everyone is doing the hours and doing it alone as demanded. Obviously some children find that hard and go awol and then can ultimately be suspended. The older friend my daughter has flouts all the rules and does get punished but they still seem to take it all humorously. One child who joined who hated being away from home did leave for a while but is now back and my own daughter and others did try to comfort that person.
I went to a concert there recently and it was excellent and great fun and an old couple whose daughter had been there 20 years ago attended - and even they seemed still very attached to the place.
If you are very strapped for cash and live at a distance (like me) you will find it hard and guidance for parents of that kind is sparse I found and I have suffered the consequences which means going into debt which I have found very distressing. However no-one seems particularly to bother and my daughter has checked this out with others and they confirm the first year and first terms can be hard financially. In the long run unless I sort my finances I will not be able to have a huge input and be kept at a distance which I find hard. I have consulted with the MDS over this and it really does not seem to concern them although I do think it runs counter to the notion that poorer families will not find it hard. They will. However it also has to be said all the major costs of the child's education ARE met and so - given its excellence - is amazing.
I get the distinct impression that Chethams offers greater support than other full time music schools and my daughter was very reluctant to consider going to Purcell. She also had the chance in the summer at a summer school to meet a number of students at Wells and asked them what they would choose and they insisted if they could get a place at Chethams they would be off!
However Wells looked to me wonderful. Purcell seemed to be suffering from cash problems but again also looked great. It seemed as though it may be better suited to 6th formers and more independent types of person who maybe do not want a wider education necessarily. However I cannot really comment. They use the Royal College of Music for tuition in certain cases (if your child can get into both) which means there is some travel involved etc but to me seems like a good option - allowing a child to be far more independent of a single institution (given it is live-in.) But may be a bit too all over the place for some.
I think the fact these institutions are so small makes them far more like a family and far more characterful than most schools. This is sometimes disconcerting - and feels like you are dealing with extended family as an outsider I feel - but thats just me and at the distance I am from the place. When I have met staff they have been extremely friendly.
My daughter is VERY independent and strong willed and balanced (despite the efforts of her disfunctional family!) so maybe she is well equipped to deal with it. It is a test I think of stamina and willpower and I have met people who say it is very much not for everyone. The children do not think many do find it too hard. However it's early days. It is certainly unusual but given it is an eduction as a classical musician there seems to be lots of open creative work and spontaneous child led input and is not stuffy or straight jacketed.
My daughter came from a very good school but she thinks ALL the lessons she gets are better at Chethams - particularly Science and Maths. She also rates art there.
I really recommend it. And wish they did it for visual artists too!! (The MDS that is.)
One child who had to leave boarding by his parents is in fact very distressed - and indeed most love boarding - which was a surprise. It helps them all get on and support each other.
Also one last point. Next year the new building opens and it is fabulous and will transform the place into a futuristic venue - and a stunning state of the art place for the 250 students!
Oh and my daughter went in 6 weeks from having failed to get into a very good county orchestra last year locally to getting in and also being placed as the principle on her instrument! Progress is remarkable it seems...