Does anyone else hate their kids being at school?

[k74]

Is it normal to hate your child being at school all day? I'm obssessed with what she does there and if she's happy and can't seem to stop myself asking her about it ( which i'm sure makes it worse). She's had a few minor problem settling -she's bright and a bit bored, underperforming according to teacher.
Think it's because it's dawning on me that I'm having to let go. The evenings are such a rush and the weekends are busy and it seems like I never get to spend any 'quality' time with ther. I'm not a control freak mum or a neurotic or anything( although I am aware I do sound like one) it's just really sad how quickly she's grown up. Does anyone feel like this or am i a freak?

No your not a freak.

I was like that when DD started school. We live opposite the school and if I heard them in the playground, Id run upstairs to see if she was playing and enjying herself.

I hated it if she came home and said no one played with her at playtime.

Spend the time for you (after all the jobs are done of course! lol).

Nope, I'm the same. My DD is in year 2 now and I still think about her during the day. Typical evening:-

Me - have you had a good day?

DD - yes.

Me - what was the best thing that happened today?

DD - dunno. Playtime?

Me - who did you play with?

DD - can't remember

Me - who did you sit with at lunch

DD - dunno. Can i watch TV now please?

etc etc

My dd has just started reception and she told me the other day that one girl wouldn't play with another girl as the game was only for 4 people (my dd was included). The child who wasn't included cried and I was so upset that my dd hadn't insisted this girl be included. It was on my mind all day and when I collected dd the next afternoon was so happy when she said she had played with this girl and so had the rest of the group. What would I be like it that child had been my dd - I'll be back on the ciggies by yr 1!

Ds1 just started Reception and I can't believe how little time there seems to be between getting home and bedtime. There doesn't seem to be time for anything even playing with his things and we are usually home by 3.30pm. Everything now has to be crammed into the weekend. I must admit i am looking forward to half term.

I am also really worried about not knowing what he is doing at lunch time etc and if he is safe as he comes home with bruises and can't even remember what happened - he has always been accident prone though. This is the first time in 5 years I haven't know his every movement and I do find it is hard to let go. So yes I know what you mean. If I could see the playground from my window I would be watching every day!!

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Yes, I miss dd1 terribly.

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Awww pinotmum - your dd sounds really sensitive

someone else has your child for 6 hours a day. that sounds fkin fantastic to me

I missed taking them out everywhere, we used to travel all over the place before they started school.

um, no. my big two are 11 and 13 and believe me they HAVE to go to school, or frankly I cant get thro the day. moody stroppy rude layabouts.........mutter mutter.....

will miss dd2 (whos 2) when she first goes tho so do know what you mean.

I could have posted this myself. I dont like letting them go either. DS1 in Y3 and I suffer real trauma when he gets a new teacher each year until Im sure hes settled and happy. I also want to ask hundreds of questions to determine if he has friends, is happy etc. DS2 has just started reception. He goes full time next week. He is one of the youngest and Im so sad for him to go.

I was a teacher myself and know all the fun that a school can be and know that the social interaction he has will be great for him. Still sad though.

I joined the governors at the school to feel a little more connected with their lives and volunteer for trips and reading etc. It helps a little K74.