Being at the school gate at hometime

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Is there any studies that have shown whether children do better at school if their parent is there to pick them up or if the child is picked up by childminder/nanny/grandparent/afterschool club?

oh greatsomething else to feel guilty about

I don't know, but a friend who worked at a playgroup once told me that you could tell how demanding/difficult a child would be by the number of differnet people who collected them - those who were icked up by a different person every day were naughtiest.

Not that I know of - but you know I have an inkling what the answer would be

Sorry I wanted to get all the bad research on board in one go. Wanted to know whether my kids would be completely depressed after they went to nursery and after-school club two nights a week and nanna the next. Better book their counselling sessions now then.

fsmail. Abslutetly Imeanhow can you even CONSIDER NOT picking them up You shouldgive up work straight away and makesure you pick them up, go home, eat a hand-knitted snack of dried alfalfa sprouts and spend all evening doing homework and extra curicular activities I mean what is this, a site for women who actually WORK (GOD HELP US ALL )

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Crunchie - I know someone who does all of that! It's tiring just watching.

FSmail - good idea to get all the info possible - here goes:

If you don't breastfeed, your children will grow up to be axe murderers.

If you go out to work at all, they will proibably end up in care.

If you don't do the school run every day (don't drive, mind you, you must walk and sing improving songs to your kids on the way) they will fail their A levels.

If you ever take them to McDonalds they will grow up to be obese couch potatoes.

If they watch TV (yes, even Teletubbies), they will end up being violent dicatators who will probably be responsible for a minor war somewhere.

Hope this helps!

Wordsmith, you forgot the other half of all of those:

If you don't bottlefeed, your children will grow up weird and clingy.

If you don't go out to work, your children will grow up with sexist ideas about women's work and men's work, and both genders' relative importance.

If you do the school run every day, your children will be bored, and only used to you.

If you don't take them to McDonalds, they will be social pariahs who will eat every bit of crap they can get their hands on, once they get a chance.

If you don't let them watch TV, they will be social paraiahs (again) who are obsessed with telly.

Quite so. Just choose according to whichever crackpot theory fits your own prejudices!

wonder if there are any studies about the increased incidence of car accidents from mums who drop their children off (not to mention take into class, get settled into activity etc in dd's class case), run from the classroom back to their car (parked legally a good distance away ) looking at their watch, drive like a mad person the 8 miles into work, curse everyone else who has taken up the whole car park, run into work to get there before the 9.30am allowed by flexitime....

Dp or I were there every day of primary to pick ds up BUT with a big iced bun which probably cancelled out any good we did by rotting his teeth and making him a sugar addict

PhillipaT - that sounds like me

of recognition for that PhilippaT.