Any SENCo out there? Need advice

[mumofthreebeauties]

My DS was 5 in August and has just gone into Yr1.

The teacher is having problems and wants to get the school SENCo to get involved.

Apparently he does not do as she asks even when reminding him about consequences and today he said he had to sit in the office during playtime.

About once a week he will say to another child he will kill them.

What will happen next. Are there set procedures to follow? She also talked about getting an external agency involved (but when asked couldn;t tell me who).

I am panicking about Aspergers, and other things.

I know other boys say these types of things but he is obvioulsy worse than them or doesn;t know when to stop.

Cant really help, but if you are worried there is no problem with letting a senco have a chat with him and you. Also your health visitor might help. The trouble is with an August child and a large group, they are still so young, born 2 weeks or so later they would be in a younger school group and I think teachers need to remember this

i am not a senco but could offer a little advice...the first thing the school should do is give your ds an IEP(individual educational plan)where they will set 3 or 4 short term specific goals for your son to achieve, you will be invited to this meeting normally with the class teacher/senco/an early years representative from the local lea may also attend?the iep is reviewed termly.
they may put in a referral to an educational psychologist but this will be because all children with any additional needs are generally referred straight away as there may be a wait for the assessment
don't worry too much(i know that's easy to say)but at least the school are communicating with you and not letting a little issue become a major problem~ hope that makes sense

Thankyou chatee and auntymandy.

I am getting quite worked up about it. DH says that if there is a problem, then it's better identified early on.

I suppose i want to think that its an inexperienced teacher you can't control him.

When I asked what happens to him when he does these things, she said the next step was to send him to the head. She didn;t seem to have any consequence for when he didn't listen.

I am confused. we don;t have any behavioural problems at home other than the odd blip. If he does something wrong (which isn;t often) he loses a priviledge and then returns to good behaviour.

The SENCo being involved really isn't that bad. Your hubby is right if your son has got a oproblem then it is better discovered sooner rather than latter.

My son 5 and half has Aspergers and luckily doesn't really have any behaviour issues other than sometimes not listening to the teacher, or finding it hard to sit quitely and still.

Try not to worry, have a chat with the SENCo it may well be that once you have explained things and talked them through with her that you and the teacher may be able to sort out the problems with out any body else needing to be involved.