Nursery question, how much communication do you have with yours?

[emily05]

ds is 3 and at nursery.

They are starting to get on my nerves!! Now I do have PMT - so I think that the problem is me!

I just dread picking him up now. It is quite a posh nursery, every time I pick him up they give me a little report on his 'behavior'.
It normally starts off "he has been good, but there was an incident where he didn?t share his train"
Every day it is something else - never anything mega bad. Then they give me advice on how to deal with his 'behavior' (such as "maybe to encourage him to share more you could get some stickers and not let him share them with you so that he learns what it is like to not be shared with")

I can understand if I asked their advice, but I didn?t and I am not daft and am active in trying to find different ways to teach my child.

sounds silly, but it is every day. Today I got told not to dress him in dungarees anymore, because although the ones he wore looked very nice they weren?t practical when taking him to the toilet! Now, at home he manages! So now he can?t wear dungarees (he has quite a few pairs).

Are all nursery?s like this? I find it quite intimidating.

Mine doesn't do that! We get a quick report on what dd has done that day, what lunch was eaten etc. and that is it. They do work a "star" system - tehy get a bit of paper with 4 stars pre-drawn on it. Apparently if they are really naughty one star will be crossed off (hasn't happend to either of mine in their time there) and if tehy are super good or helpful another star is drawn on. And that's it!

Can you not be in a tearing hurry each time you pick him up and cut them off at the "he's been good" bit? Perhaps they would get the message? Maybe you always listen and look interested (just natural politeness) so they think you apprecieate their input. Perhaps you could ask them if you could have a meeting with them every 3 months instead of every single day. If he can manage dungarees at home then I think you could point this out to them and ask them to specify what problems they are having. Would drive me mad TBH.

i think there was a thread a few days ago where someone was complaining about not getting enough feedback from nursery. i suppose its down to the nursery and how chatty the staff are. i like getting the little reports. if you dont want them i would just grab him and run saying sorry but you are in a rush. they will probably guess you dont want to talk after a week or so of being in a rush

thanks for your imput. Great ideas about being in a rush will use that one tomorrow!
scotlou - like the star chart idea!