Exclusion

[blueskyholiday]

My ds has been excluded for 1 day for hitting his teacher .

Oh no.

Have you got to the bottom of it all yet? And talked to him and the school about the situation? How old is he?

How old is he?

He's 4yrs old. The school are contacting some behavioural support people. I just can't believe this has happened

Have his behavioural difficulties just emerged? Or were you and/or the school aware of them for some time?

So this must be his first year at school, in reception - his first couple of weeks?

Have school explained the whole situation to you?

I think you really need to get to the bottom of all this, find out exactly what happened and the events leading up to it. And you need to ensure that he knows what he did, and the consequences too.

Is this behaviour out of the ordinary for him?

I hope you get some answers.

Is it his second week at school.

I think you need to find out what happened. I recieved a report saying that ds1 had headbutted his LSA - (hadn't been told anything - out of blue). Luckily someone I knew had witnessed the occasion, and during the course of a meeting it turned out that he had headbutted when held down- even the head said that any child would lash out in that situation.

Find out what happened if you can.

does that mean he has only been at school a couple of weeks? both mine have been excluded for a day and i think it helped them realise they were in big trouble and couldnt carry on behaving as they were. its not been held against them and atm they are both doing really well (touch wood). take all the help they offer you and hopefully it will just be a one off. think its a bit extreme if he has only just started tho

A girl from dd2's class was excluded for three days at the end of the summer term, for biting a teacher. It was in the playground, and not her teacher, but one that was on playground duty.

They are addressing the problem with her, but I find it hard to understand how excluding a 5 year old can have any effect. It seems like the parent's being punished - I may be wrong but surely a 5 year old wouldn't grasp the notion of not being able to go to school? I think it could possibly be seen as an incentive ......

depends what they do at home carla! mine had worksheets from school and i printed some off too so they ended up doing more boring school work than they would have done at school, they still had to wear their uniform, there was no runnning about with their mates and they got no sweets for a week. if you let them sit in front of the tele its an incentive, but mine decided they were better off at school (i am nice to them most of the time btw, just not when they have been sent home for being naughty!)

i do think exclusion should be a last resort however, and the school cant have tried everything else because there hasnt been time in two weeks. think they need to work out an action plan which can be discussed with him so he knows where he stands

He's never done anything like this before. No problem with behaviour at home. Sometimes naughty but then he's put on the naughty chair. Put him on the naughty chair after school yesterday and told him he couldnt go to his swimming lesson. Also no crisps or sweets. He was upset but I tried to explain to him that he just cant go around hitting his teacher.