WWYD- girls' school v co-ed with big brother

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It's all a bit hypothetical ATM but I'd like to know what other MNers would do in this situation:

2 schools within half hour walking distance of home and each other. Both have excellent academic record but the co-ed one outperforms the girls' school. Both have good sports/music/art etc facilities. The co-ed one is 4x the size of the girls' school and has bigger class sizes.

A teacher who tutors pupils at the co-ed one says the teaching quality isn't actually v great but that they do well because it is selective. I get the impression the girls' school isn't so selective.

The co-ed's building is victorian and really not fit for the purposes of a modern school but it has been renovated as well as it could be. The facilities in the girls' school are a lot 'shinier'. The girls' school is c. £1-2k pa more expensive.

DS will go to the co-ed. DP wants DD to go to the girls' school. I used to agree because I believe that girls do best in single sex schools but now 2 things are swaying me. 1) the logistics 2) are we disadvantaging DD by not giving her the academic advantage DS will get by going to the more academic school? They are both smart and I expect them both to do well academically.

WWYD?

If both are able to pass the tests for the more selective better performing co-ed school they both go to that one. Perhaps the all girls school does less well because it takes the girls who don't get into the co-ed school. If there is a reason why your dd would thrive better at a smaller all girls school, ie, vv quiet or wants to be with all girls then that might be best. When the time comes you will have also to see what dd wants because no child will thrive if they go to a school that isn't right for them or that they really don't want to go to.

IMO education is far less about shiny facilities than the quality of the teaching and the pastoral care. My old school would have been condemned nowadays but 30 years ago it was one of the highest performing schools in the South East.

I really wanted co Ed and together.

Already at 13 DDs mateswho went single sex seem to have no idea that boys are normal people too nor how to relate to them - maybe that's just them as individuals though!

Assuming this is a while off, I'd wait until ds is settled at the co-ed, as you'll learn a lot about it by then. (This is assuming ds is the older of course!). Apart from anything else a change in headteacher can make an enormous different in a school, so it maybe far too early to tell.

I prefer co-ed myself. Unless your dd has strong views against it I'd choose that one.

Co-ed all the way. They will benefit from sharing school...and I m kind of vaguely against single sex schools...ike the idea of kids learning to deal with the opposite sex...warts and all!