Thank you for your replies.
I am well aware Uni is about the experience but the cost of it scares me. In an ideal world of course I would want DC to go away to Uni.
I didnt do Uni. I HAD to leave school at 16 and go to work for the money plain and simple. I am only just now returning to further education in the hope I will improve my future employment prospects to help fund my DC further education.
We have 2 DC. My eldest is a very average student but massively talented (not my words - her heads) in modern languages. She is only 13 and has an absolute passion for languages. She is pretty fluent in French, top of Spanish for her year and 2nd in her year for Greek. On all other subjects she is somewhere in the middle.
I am surprised to see that Uni is free in France - that could be a possibility.
I know Uni is still a good few years away but have just started panicking about costs as it seems everyone around us with DC younger than ours have finance plans in place and those people we know with children at Uni now - have said they intend to pay the whole whack!!!
Before reading this thread I had visions of my DD being the only one having to work to fund her Uni, but reading some of the replies on here has eased that fear a bit.
She has no idea what she wants to do yet (its early days) but she deffo wants to follow her language talents.
We are not poor, both had previous marriages so not that young when we got together. We both came into our relationship with next to nothing financially. DH was in the military back then and we lived in Army housing. Only 4 years ago when he came out did we buy our own house. We now have a 20 year mortgage ahead of us. DH earns an average salary, I was until I lost my job in March earning a pittance - as someone with no qualifications hence now being in FE myself.
We probably look OK financially on paper. DHs wages cover the essentials. When I was earning my pittance we could afford the odd treat etc but we sail close to the wind so to speak so never enough to save reguarly. Since we used all our savings for the house deposit we have little under a £1000 in savings for emergencies (boiler dying etc). Its taken us 4 years of few treats to save that back up, so there is little scope for us to set up a savings plan. I am pretty damn sure we would not be entitled to any grants or classed as low income because we are not, just maybe not where alot of people are financially at our age???
On a brighter note extended family is spread out so I suppose cheap lodgings with my relatives could be an option in either Bath, Bristol and Cardiff.
I also have another DC 2 years younger and what we do for 1 we have to be able to do for the other iykwim - assuming they both want to go uni!
I know my DC are still young but unless we win the lotto - we are never going to be that flush, although I hope I will be able to earn a more average salary in a year or two if my studies go well.
Thanks for your input.