My children attend a highly selective mixed grammar school where the majority of children were tutored.
I have never been aware of any children that gained a place that struggle or are unhappy and it is also not apparant which children were tutored and which were not. If children do struggle it is not made clear and they must be fully supported through as the exam results really do speak for themselves.
Our choice of school was based on a much wider decision than league tables and results. My childrens friends were mostly the children who were top of the class in primary school. Now they face "competition" and mine now like the fact that the whole class works at a very similar level, without the stigma or the pressure to maintain that top of the class position. They take their subjects above and beyond what is required in the curriculum and seem to have a lot of fun at the same time.
So many people believe that as they attend such a "good" school they are pressured to work extremely hard, have mountains of homework, high expectations on young shoulders and our experience couldn't be further from that.
They do work towards the same curriculum and the exam results speak for themselves that these children can achieve. As they are blessed with being bright it means that for them the academic work is easier and therefore they have more time and opportunity to devote to the arts, music and sport. It never ceases to amaze me just how talented my childrens friends are on the sports field and musically - and how much enjoyment they get from it. These talents are far more celebrated than academic achievment.
I am delighted that my children have the opportunity to attend such a good school. The result of tonights rugby match against a local school is far more important to my son than his next exam result, lunchtimes are not spent in the library stressing over quantities of homework but trying to balance the fine line between using his blazer as a goal post with his mates and finding time to whisper sweet nothings to his girlfriend in the form room... while the other one is off playing in the jazz band, organising some rehearsals for the latest production as well as trying to convince the head to implement some eco water saving toilet flush system...
If my local comprehensive school could have offered them all the same opportunities they would have had an easy walk to school and life would be simple. It would have been unfair of me to pick an easy life and an ok school experience when with a few adjustments and a more hectic schedule they now have a truly excellent education. It has been an easy decision to make and one I have not for a second regretted in any way.