how long would you give someone to pay before getting fed up

[carriedababi]

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One week from item ending. Send an email saying you will relist the item within 24 hours if payment is not received & leave negative feedback then do it.

yep, same here. Give them a few days, up to a week (just to give benefit of the doubt) then e-mail them requesting payment.

thanks

(maybe the buyer is ill or had to go away on business and hasn't had chance to log onto ebay to pay)

thanks shes got back to me now
i am an imptient devil

I've had this problem too this week. I wasn't sure how to deal with it. I've sent a "pay up or I'll relist" email, still no response - so can I just relist, or do I have to seek some kind of permission from ebay or deal with it in some other kind of formal way?

No, just relist but make sure you leave negative feedback. Write 'did not pay' in comment box. The item is still yours so you can relist and if you've sent an email that's proof that you gave the buyer reasonable opportunity to pay or contact you. It happens all the time so don't worry there won't be a comeback on you.

there could be comeback - you can't leave negs for buyers but if you don't close the 'deal' with a proper dispute (seen through to the end) then the buyer is still a buyer who can leave a negative for you and also pay, then open a dispute for item not received ...

I agree but not likely- either they've bid for something and forgotten to check they've won it and gone on holiday or something, but far more likely they have had a change of heart and will be relieved that you're not pursuing it as not paid for. I would still relist- within the time of relisting you can always withdraw it and sell to original buyer.

It's risky to assume these things though. Going about it the way you suggest it a heck of a lot of faff especially if it gets sold to another buyer or even if there is still time left; if there is a bid it gets noted that you are canceling bids in order to withdraw. Far easier to stick to the proper procedure.

I'm not saying the way you suggest doesn't work for you, but it might be best to explain it's not the proper way and the possible pitfalls when advising others. It is possible someone may believe it is the correct way to go about things and end up with strikes and negs which could ruin their selling account.

Gosh 6lostmonkeys that sounds complicated and worrying. I think I'll follow the procedure then (and call it a learning experience!). I'm 100% positive and value that, so I don't want to get into some kind of slanging match that just ends up causing me grief for the sake of a few pounds.