Would you ask your buyer to pay the extra postage if you got it wrong?

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I usually just suck it up and put it down to experience.

I've had this message tonight, about something that cost a fiver and five to post:

Dear.......,

Hello, I have posted this. Sadly, it cost £8.24 to post - a weighing mistake on my part when listing. Any contribution to the £3.24 shortfall appreciated.
Thanks

I am a bit {shock] that someone would even bother if it is only £3 difference. I factored the postage into my bid, tbh the item didn't look great and I thought the shipping would cost more than a fiver but some people do use cheap couriers so who knows.

I feel guilt tripped into contributing now, when I cannot really afford to. If that makes sense.

How can I reply?

Ignore them until you have got the item
Then you can check the postage and condition

Remember you might not have bid if you knew it was costing the extra

No, don't pay it. As you say, they should just suck it up as it was their mistake.

Email them back and politely tell them that you wouldn't have bid if you'd known the full postage cost. You can mutually agree to abandon the transaction, with no hard feelings.

no I wouldn't - I've severely underestimated a couple of times before (on one occasion I made a grand total of 57p because of my mistake) but I've never even contemplated passing it onto the buyer!

Thanks, no I wouldn't have bid. 4.99 was the most I'd have paid for the item with £5 postage, but it was the starting bid anyway.

It looks very dirty in the picture (it's an old swing seat) and I'm not sure if it'll be in Ok condition anyway.

I'll do what you suggest

Well desi, they already sent it - I wish they'd asked me first but they're asking nicely having done it already, which makes me feel really bad!!

One time I lost around £10 sending something big to France, and I did ask her if she could contribute half maybe, but she said no! That was in the early days. I never asked anyone again. I wouldn't ask for £3 anyway.

I had a heavy book set experience - my scales went round once and I didn't notice!! Ouchh expensive mistake - I did mention it to the buyer (in passing as it were) hoping he may take pity on me. He didn't!! I wouldn't dream of asking for it.

I screwed up something heavy to oz. Quoted surface mail
price as airmail. She needed it quickly. Cost £15.98. I took £7 from her and put it down to experience

No, if I screwed up I'd accept it and make sure I weighed accurately next time.

I'm sure the seller always refunds her buyers a few pence each time she accidentally overestimates postage! I know I always do [angelic] [lying].

Well, I didn't take any notice, the item arrived, it is as I thought, old and a bit manky but fine and useable.
I left him positive feedback straight away, but he has not reciprocated. I think that just proves he is an arse really

Probably give me a negative actually!