eBay experiment selling old slippers

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After seeing some rancid looking shoes being sold for £££. I have put my slippers up www.ebay.co.uk/itm/191872228008
If they sell I will do it full time lol.
I haven't made the listing as 'bad' as some I have seen as I cannot be bothered to set up a new account.

They didn't sell by the way. Just a bunch of pervy messages

I must admit I have bought a few pairs of worn slippers on ebay.

Never sent any pervy messages other than to confirm they wouldnt be washed before sending.
Some of the sellers like to keep a message exchange going to see if I want to buy more whilst others just happily send the slippers and give nice feedback. Such a pity that sellers are put off because some "buyers" go too far.

Well....I've just run the whole thing past DP and he's more than happy for me to sell 'trashed' tights and shoes.

stumbly - I hope you get lots of nice buyers and no pervy messages....good luck!

stumbly - you're brave! I'd be scared in case they were bought by someone I know at work .

trusty - I am certain that your buyer would be 100 times more mortified than you to find his seller was a work colleague ....lol

You're probably right, there TVHubby!

I can just imagine the embarrassment, and having to avoid using any expressions such as if I were in your shoes or if the shoe were on the other foot ...

Trusty - I must confess that I would never buy from a seller living in the same town as me....you just never know.....

Okay TVhubby....so....I'm too intrigued not to ask.

Does your DP/DW know of your foot fetish?

I have to say it seems surprisingly common, when I was online dating I would get quite a few messages from guys with a foot fetish (and did not even have any pics that showed my feet).

Trusty - DW knows i love slippers and buy them on ebay and i wear them on weekend evenings but these are all new or in vgc. She is not aware that i buy old worn ones

Do you think she would mind? I don't think it would bother me if my DH was into it (as long as he took responsibility for binning the old slippers when he'd finished with them!).

I sold some thigh high boots a while back, I was naive, I got messages that I didn't expect, but they went for a good sum :) The buyer wanted to collect, so arranged supermarket car park, not wanting to give home address and sent DH, who handed them over with a cheery "I hope you enjoy them as much as Gary and I did"

trusty i think she would mind, she pretty much hates the idea of claire and tolerates only slippers. She knows i do dress and i have things in my wardrobe but its never discussed...

kiss i bet your buyer was disappointed...lol. I think id be too embrassed to even want to pick up in person

I do know that some widowed men buy them. The sight and smell of them reminds them of their wives. It's mainly pervy stuff but not always.

TVHubby Well, I suppose your DW accepting your wearing the (new) slippers is something .

I've always felt it's healthy to have 'sides' of yourself or your sexuality that are separate from your relationship with your DP (as long as it doesn't stray into infidelity) - it doesn't have to detract from what you have together.

Yes I do feel lucky that she allows the slipper wearing. She was more open when we first got together and actually bought slippers and tights for a birthday present one year. However anything like that has long gone and unfortunately I think it has put a wedge between us....definitely no feelings of infidelity from my side though.its enough having Claire on the side....

It's a shame it's put a wedge between you. Do you have support from any other "TVHubbies" who have been in the same situation? There might be ways of rebuilding your wife's acceptance, especially if she was comfortable with it when you first got together.

not really no....to be honest Im not sure how i would bring it up again and we seem to have got to this place where its just not talked about

I wondered if you might be on any TV-specific forums where others in the same situation could advise you (no idea how likely it would be you'd find someone on MN as I'm a relative newbie!).

It does sound as though it's become something of an elephant in the room for you both, which is an uncomfortable situation to live with.

I can only think of the fairly corny idea of taking your wife away for a weekend, or having a really special meal out, and try gently to initiate a conversation - perhaps from the perspective that you're worried she's not happy; you'd really like her to talk about it, and to feel completely free to say what she's feeling in a 'safe space' - encourage her just to get everything off her chest while you listen, and that might give you at least a starting point to get back to being open together about Claire.

Thanks for suggestion, I think we are where we are to be honest. We don't open up much but rest of family life is good and I'm sure we love each other in other ways. I think Claire and my old slipper buying will just stay outside everything else

Well, if everything else is good and you love each other, that's much more than many couples have. I don't believe any marriage/relationship can ever be 100% perfect, so if it works to keep Claire and the slippers separate, just enjoy your life in two compartments.

You sound like a lovely, sensitive husband so I'm sure your DW does love you, and it may just be that she sees 'avoiding' Claire as a way of giving you more freedom to be yourself.

Thank you so much and I think/hope your right. No doubt I will be back buying some slippers soon and no pervy messages ever