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I was meant to be getting treatment but it hasn't happened

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ArwenUndomniel · 10/04/2026 23:07

I have binge/purge subtype anorexia and I was recently referred to the community mental health team by my GP because they were concerned about my purging behaviours and the fact my periods have stopped. I was assessed and offered a course of CBT-e, which I was really surprised about tbh. But anyway, I accepted the offer and they said they would be in touch the following week to arrange times etc. That was about four weeks ago and I've heard nothing since. I did call them last week to see what was going on and all they said was that their systems were "down" so they couldn't get my records up, but that someone would call me back. Still nothing though.

I don't really know what I'm supposed to do. Is it a test? Am I meant to prove that I'm committed and engaged by keeping on chasing them until I get the treatment? Because frankly, I don't have it in me to keep pushing. It took a huge mental effort for me to seek help in the first place and as ED specialists I would have expected them to realise how ambivalent an anorexic person would feel about "getting better". I really, really don't want to engage in "weight restoration" but I was prepared to accept that it was part of the treatment and try to work with them. But to expect me to actively chase them for it seems like a step too far.

The worst of it is that I was having private therapy up until a couple of weeks ago, but I gave that up because I was advised that you shouldn't have two separate "lots" of therapy at the same time. So now I have no support at all.

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Silverbirchleaf · 11/04/2026 07:10

Keep chasing. Give them another ring.

Mummyoflittledragon · 11/04/2026 16:31

In your place, I would chase the community health team and go back to your private therapist to continue with treatment. Being actually under treatment privately, I would think will help to give you a little strength to chase them. Don’t tell the NHS you’re getting support elsewhere and if they’ve asked, you stopped it on x date. That’s factual even if you restart. They can’t actually stop you seeking treatment elsewhere anyway. Decide which you prefer when you’ve actually started treatment. The support they’re offering may take a long time to come to fruition or may not suit you.

Anothersetback · 12/04/2026 19:10

Few years ago dd was offered cbt-e in Feb and didn't start till April.
So with everything there is a long waiting list.
I can only suggest to keep chasing them. I often struggled to get through when trying to phone so emailed them as well.

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