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Worried mum

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MaPandte · 13/08/2025 15:14

Hi all, i am desperately looking for some thoughts and advice regarding my 15 year old daughter. She is an absolute joy of a girl, works hard at school, is very kind and thoughtful, and is just a delight to be around.

About 7 weeks ago, she started complaining about sore stomachs and nausea so we took her to the doctors. She has had numerous blood tests, urine samples but nothing was shown. Over these weeks, the pains were getting worse and on one occasion she passed out.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago where we discovered that she has been massively restricting her eating. This came about through a brief chat when at docs where i sensed her responses to his questions were 'off'. Since then she has shared that she doesn't wait to eat as she gets bloated and looks fat (she is incredibly thin and the doc even mentioned about her being close to being underweight)
We have spoken lots since then and I keep hearing things that are very worrying. For example, 'i feel guilty when I eat' "you don't understand that its not that easy' (when we ask her to eat something) At times, she is happy and her normal self but at other times she just looks so unhappy.

I have done lots of research and tried to be mindful of how I approach things. she said she doesn't want to talk to any friends about this and I can sense she is getting more and more annoyed when we try to discuss it.
We are going to the doc but its not until next week. Today I found a journal where she wrote that this is taking over her life.
I am at a total loss as I just don't know what to do. She is eating very little and what she does eat, is generally because we ask her to.

What can I expect next week at docs? Initially I wasn't sure if this was a teenage girl hang up but the more she says and the more time passes, I am really worried she has a disorder.

I would really appreciate any advice or words of experience as I feel so lost with it all. I don't know how we didn't spot this earlier 😕

OP posts:
BlueSkyShepherdsPie · 08/09/2025 07:00

Hi @MaPandte , I spotted your thread as I am also a mum worried about my 15 year old daughter, but noticed you haven't had any replies. We are further down the road than you and I came on looking for support about a relapse, but I know the worry so wanted to respond.
The most helpful source of advice is the charity Beat. Lots of info on their webpages, a helpline and we went on one of their courses which was really helpful.
From our experience I would push to get as much help as you can as soon as you can. Hopefully your GP will refer to your local eating disorder team. (Try to make sure you are listened to if she plays It down). It may be useful to talk to school as they may have a counselling service who may be able to help. But definitely start with Beat.
Good luck.

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