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DD17 with AN - hospital needed?

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pinguini78 · 11/02/2025 11:09

Hi, I’m new to this forum and not very internet-savvy in general so apologies if I get the forum etiquette wrong. I’m looking for some advice about my DD. Still awaiting formal diagnosis (have CAMHS psych appt on Friday) but pretty clearly anorexia. Have been trying to do 3 meals a day plus 1 snack (the most we could achieve) because DD is highly motivated to be in school and we said no school without meals. Last couple of weeks it’s been getting more difficult to get through the meals, plus increase in her distress and increase in her attempts to exercise at all hours. Yesterday didn’t eat all meals so we said she couldn’t go to school today - had hours of hysteria overnight, trying to escape out of windows, we were really scared we couldn’t keep her safe so phoned 111 and spoke to MH adviser, but by the time a doctor phoned us back at 3am we’d calmed her enough to sleep. She’s not at school today and distressed - won’t eat, has had some sips of water but barely any, says she won’t eat anything until she can go back to school. She ate some things yesterday but not much. We’re waiting for a call back from duty desk at CAMHS for advice. At what point do you think I should take her to A&E? I’m thinking this evening if we’ve not managed to get her to eat anything and no progress? Thanks in advance :)

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4timesthefun · 15/02/2025 09:34

pinguini78 · 15/02/2025 06:56

Thank you @4timesthefun those are good points :) she’s super keen on school and is very high achieving but that’s also driven by a lot of unhealthy perfectionism which I think is partially driving the AN. So it’s all a balance and like you say we are just trying to be very cautious and take it a day at a time. We saw the psychiatrist yesterday who prescribed various vitamin supplements amongst other things, as she’s agreed to give those a go so fingers crossed.

Fingers crossed, I really hope she is able to take the vitamins etc at the very least. Obviously getting it through food is ideal, but if she can at least avoid things like anemia then that will hopefully help.

I definitely missed a lot of school, I was hospitalised 4 times, so I didn’t maintain perfect attendance. She can definitely get where she wants to go without going everyday, hopefully if she needs a hospitalisation they will have a school program within that. I tried a few different ones and was always supported by a teacher as an inpatient (employed by the hospital not the school!).

pinguini78 · 15/02/2025 12:33

@Noidea2024 and @4timesthefun thanks so much for your replies and insights, it’s really useful to have both perspectives as we try and find a middle path through this really difficult time 🙏

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