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Eating disorders

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Bulimia.

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ForOliveShaker · 02/10/2024 22:23

Suffered for many years. I refuse to get help other than therapy. I’m not ready.

my parents know this happens. I have moved back in with them. I had a meltdown the other night about my weight because I gained 1 lb. I cried and screamed and thew my food in the bin.

Parents sat by my bed and checked in on me and said I need to find a new ed therapist. They said they’ll support me etc and they gave me a hug told me to stop being so hard on myself etc. Told me to get support. My mum said she’d come with me.

My issue is they never seem to follow up on me. We talk about all manner of other things. It’s just this wasn’t mentioned after again. Or check in after. I’m in my 20s. Like I said. I’m autistic and have adhd. I don’t know if I’m being unfair on them or?

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Ohfuckrucksack · 02/10/2024 22:26

It's up to you. Only you can do the work.

Not your parents, not your therapist - you.

If you're not ready, you're not ready but you cannot demand support from other people, especially more than they are offering - not even your parents.

Radiolala · 02/10/2024 22:29

Ohfuckrucksack · 02/10/2024 22:26

It's up to you. Only you can do the work.

Not your parents, not your therapist - you.

If you're not ready, you're not ready but you cannot demand support from other people, especially more than they are offering - not even your parents.

I agree but you can communicate with them and tell them what you need.
What is the easiest way for you to communicate your needs @ForOliveShaker ?

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ForOliveShaker · 02/10/2024 22:29

Ohfuckrucksack · 02/10/2024 22:26

It's up to you. Only you can do the work.

Not your parents, not your therapist - you.

If you're not ready, you're not ready but you cannot demand support from other people, especially more than they are offering - not even your parents.

Thanks. I was nearly heading into another meltdown about it. But you have made me realise it’s my own choice.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 03/10/2024 08:28

I think what your parents are saying is that they can’t find the therapist for you as this is a very individual thing. But they are with you to help you on your journey in any way they can when you’re ready.

It is very hard to navigate being the parent of an adult child, who needs support from the outside world. If you were reacting over the feelings of them not supporting you, what reaction from you would they get if you felt they were forcing you to get help?

Idk if it would be useful to think about the form of therapy you may want. For example, I know on the NHS people with anorexia are offered CBT-E. Idk about bulimia. But there are lots of forms of therapy and some therapists offer combinations including deep relaxation, emotional focused therapy etc.

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