NC for this, as DH knows I use Mumsnet.
I'm worried about him - I think with good reason, but I do have an over-active imagination so I need people to tell me I'm not crazy - as well as help on how to handle this.
Around a year ago, DH cut out snacks and started skipping the odd meal. I put it down to just trying to lose weight, but it gradually got worse to the point that there's no way he could have been consuming the bare minimum 1200 calories a day. He was also constantly ill when usually his immune system is really strong, feeling the cold when he's normally too hot. He started taking antacid and complaining of headaches. I noticed that whenever he took a bath, there would be bleach down the toilet afterwards - even when the toilet didn't need cleaning.
I voiced some of my concerns a few months ago. I didn't tell him that I suspected anxieties and bulimia, just that I'd noticed how little he was eating, the effect it was having on him and that I was worried. He didn't give me any direct answers, just kept saying that he was fine and that I shouldn't worry.
Since then, he's been eating better. Small portions, but 3 meals a day at least. He's not constantly fighting off colds any more. But there's still bleach down the utoilet after every bath and yesterday there was a small amount of vomit in the tub after he used it.
In the mean time, I've also become worried about how much he's drinking. I have no reason to think he's drinking in secret or at odd hours and there's no issue with how he behaves after drinking, but he's consuming 10 to 15 units every night - well into the realms of binging.
I know that if I bring either of these things up, he'll just be defensive. And I've seen so many posts on here where people say that you have to let adults make their own choices. And I have some unhealthy habits myself, so I'd be hypocritical to raise it - and he's never passed comment on them. But I'm so worried and have no idea what to do. Any advice would be much appreciated.