Support thread 11 for parents of young people with an eating disorder

[GrannyRoberts]

Hi all, here is our new thread. I will attempt to post a link on thread 10.

@summertimesadness24 we add a 300 ml pot to a 4 pint bottle. We built it up slowly over 1-2 weeks to that level so DD wouldn't notice the taste difference

summertimessadness24

I agree to build up slowly.
If she likes museli or granola you can add ground almonds easily to those, again build up slowly. Also good in porridge.

Thank you, since doing the two big spoons in a glass she's not noticed but good idea with adding to the milk
She's done a 300ml one now in just a few days so since Sunday

@summertimessadness24 Like you, a year or so ago I tried adding double cream all at once into DD's cereal but unfortunately I was caught 🙄 DD now insists on total control or it's not eaten. I should've gone gradually so hopefully it's not too late for you now.

Hope this works for you too @WoodenTrain

Oh no!! I definitely didn't start gradually but she has accepted it just adding two tablespoons so think I'm ok 😊so far anyway!
When I was stirring in the cream I felt
Like I was drugging her lol
When I was meal planning earlier I did ask her what we should have next week many requests etc and she requested Mac cheese, lasagna and when I suggested pizzza one night she didn't seem bothered so the fact she's now asking for that and Mac cheese was the one dish she was refusing last month she's come a long way
And I can add double cream to Mac cheese easily and to the lasagna white sauce
Just have to remember to separate them this time 😂

@summertimesadness24 when I make a white sauce for lasagne or a cheese sauce for macaroni I don’t do a roux anymore, I simply use double cream and grated cheese - you don’t need lots of cheese as it thickens very easily. If it’s too rich and cheesey add a bit of lemon juice to cut through the heaviness.

I do the same NotDonna and I use mild cheddar as can get a lot of it in the sauce without it tasting too cheesy.
I also get quite a bit of unsalted butter into the meat sauce. It blends in a lot better than olive oil.

I'll try that, so no milk at all?

Zero milk. Purely cream and grated cheese. I use a mild one then can put more in!

Fab, will try that thank you x

Once it’s in a lasagne they don’t know that it’s not proper white sauce.

We've had a weigh today and we've had a small gain 😊44.6 so I'm wondering if you can put it through the wfh calculation you have if you don't mind ?
I'm assuming it won't be too much of a difference but I'm happy it's a gain in 6 days

@Curlyhairedassasin

She's 44.6 kg weight
160cm
August 2011 x

@summertimessadness24

94%wfh. Great job 😁

This thread is almost full so I've made a new one here Support thread 12 for parents of young people with an eating disorder www.mumsnet.com/Talk/eating_disorders/5033256-support-thread-12-for-parents-of-young-people-with-an-eating-disorder

Ps amazing job @summertimessadness24!!

Thank you, 🙏 wow it really does make a difference
It's nice to know that all this hard work makes a difference
Plus we had a really positive FBT session today and a drs review
Still blind weighing which seems to be key x

@summertimesadness24 is brilliant when FTB works. DD hasn't put on weight in a long time and appears completely treatment resistant, FTB is just causing violent outbursts. but so good to see it works for you!

Sorry to hear this - could it be that ED is rattled. We had this when ED was strong

And to add this is the 3rd therapist and we seem to have a good fit
The system itself isn't great but we do like our new lady which I think helps

Hi all, sat here reading through these posts whilst I’m sat in floods of tears feeling so helpless looking for some hope x

@Mumofellie sorry you find yourself here, come and find us on the thread no12, this one is finished, run out of space. I'll try and link...
www.mumsnet.com/talk/eating_disorders/5033256-support-thread-12-for-parents-of-young-people-with-an-eating-disorder?reply=134018430

Hi, my 14y/o son is currently in hospital, feeding via NG tube - his CAMHS ED team are saying they can’t begin meaningful psychological support until he restores weight (currently 42kg) yet he’s begging for help - his self loathing and sadness is off the scale and I’m feeling so overwhelmed, I can’t ever see an end to this nightmare. I just need to hear from anyone who can relate - thanks 🙏🏻

@PrimitiveSoul so sorry that you find yourself in this situation, it’s every parents worst nightmare. We have moved over to a new thread so please join us there.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/eating_disorders/5033256-support-thread-12-for-parents-of-young-people-with-an-eating-disorder?page=4&reply=134131136