My mother is subliminally guilt tripping me for eating carbs during pregnancy.

[Sickofit189]

I struggled at the beginning of pregnancy and now I’m 8 months pregnant and no longer restrict (havnt for 4 months)
I’ve been eating carbs (bread, pastas)
I dislike my new body so much & I met up with my mum the other day and she made me feel so shit.

she was like “no one needs to eat bread, I’m just going to eat this one croissant today and that’s it! Humans don’t need more than that a day”
then we went food shopping and she was like “do you want anything? You need to eat healthy so you don’t get anymore ginormous than you already ate!”

I was literally high risk not long ago because I was very frail. My nan said she has an excuse because she has anorexia etc but I feel like I want to punch her in the face because I struggle with eating disorders because of her calling me too fat too skinny all through childhood but I would never talk about that kind of shit around kids. Especially not my own daughter.

ahhhhhhhhhhh

If you haven't done already, you need to start lowering the amount of contact you have with your mother. She has already destroyed you self esteem. Do not let her do it to your child as well.

There comes a point where protecting your mental and physical health is more important than pleasing family.

Your mum might have an eating disorder but that is still her responsibility to manage and its still unacceptable for her to verbally abuse you in this way or to use that as an excuse to 'trigger' your worries around food.

You might be happier and healthier if you were low/ no contact with her. I know a number of people with anorexia, none of them act that way towards other people.

My mum can be very toxic around food and body image. She's expressly clear that if she brings it up around me I will end the conversation and leave the room if I have to. She is expressly clear that she is not to mention it around my child as I want them to grow up with positive messages. I'd see this as your opportunity to break the cycle of toxic parenting by establishing clear boundaries now and protecting your child from her while you work on unpicking all the toxic messages she's given you over the years

I'm so sorry that you're going through this @Sickofit189

My MIL made comments about me getting fat during PG. she was pulled up on it every single time and reminded it's not fat, there's a baby growing in there.

Your "D"M clearly has an ED and a very warped view of what is healthy.

Like others have said, I'd start limiting the time spent with her, especially if good is going to be involved.

You don't want her damaging your LO's self esteem too