So I wanted some advice from others really about what to do in my situation.
I have a 4 year old and I’m with his dad, his dad has been loosing weight rapidly the last couple of years. He is 6ft and now down to 62kg. we don’t eat dinner together ever because myself and our child eats things like lasagna, pasta bake, a chicken meal, roast dinner (the usual) and he only eats salad etc. our child often comments that daddy only eats salad.
We are on holiday and he was hospitalised a few days ago and placed into intensive care because he’d been binge eating and vomiting so much that he blacked out and had a seizure because his potassium and sodium levels were so low. He is now back out of the hospital feeling better with a stitched up head. Up to this point I had suspicions he was possibly sick but wasn’t sure, and now I know that over the last few years he has had bulimia but has been vomiting several times a day for the last 6 months or so. I’d asked him before and he said I was crazy for thinking so, and I was totally unaware he was binge eating. He also admitted to lying about his weight (trying to make me think he was gaining weight when he was still losing it)
I’ve followed him around everywhere for the last two days of holiday ensuring he isn’t sick. But that isn’t sustainable. He won’t go to the doctors, he does already see a private therapist and has done for a few months. He said this is a wake up call and he’s better now but obviously it’s not that simple.
what do I do? Obviously I love and want to support him but ultimately we have a 4 year old and I don’t want him to be affected by all of this? I feel like I can keep him safer/happier on my own but how do you walk out on somebody with bulimia?!
thank you for all advice xx