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Approaching A Levels

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Calzonepizza · 04/05/2023 09:37

Hello my DD is awaiting referral for counselling and a dietitian, she is eating a v controlled healthy diet and she is saying she can’t concentrate on revision and her mind is blank.
She has v High standards and has consistently got A stars in course work etc so she won’t be happy if this happens on exam day, despite reassuring and her not needing these grades for uni anyway.
She opened up to me this March so it’s all v new . The school have been excellent and said she doesn’t need to sit the exams this year or she can return if she isn’t happy with her grades.
She is v conflicted as to what she should be doing, I have suggested take the exams she has nothing to lose and she has said she isn’t in a good place, I have said re take the year and concentrate on getting well but she has said she will only kick herself if she doesn’t take them.
She wants me to meet with head of sixth to discuss which I will be doing next week but as she is torturing herself into what decision she is going to make I’m not sure what headway we will make.
I just want her to be well
Any advice would be really helpful

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Calzonepizza · 04/05/2023 13:11

Anyone?

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SunnyFog · 05/05/2023 20:41

Hugs.
She is more likely to regret not taking them and having nothing to show for her work; than taking them and doing less well than she knows she can do.

Notagardener · 06/05/2023 15:19

In a slightly similar situation. DC will be sitting exams. But I have said there will be options regardless of the results.
If she gets her A* she is capable off, that's fine. If not she can retake the year if she feels like it
At this stage her mental and physical health is so bad it doesn't matter.

myrtleWilson · 09/05/2023 21:43

Hi - anyone affected - please do join us on the ED support thread for those parenting children and young people with an eating disorder. You'll find lots of people coping (or trying to) just like you...

My Dd ended up not taking her a-levels as her ED was so strong (even though at that point she was in recovery - the stress relating to study was too much) - it wasn't the path we thought she'd have but she'll make her own way in the world much better when she's healthy.

That said, its only our experience, and others on the support thread have seen their DC get through A-levels and progress successfully in recovery to Uni. It is personal journey but there are lots of people with the same experience who will offer support.

Calzonepizza · 10/05/2023 08:22

Thank you everyone

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