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Idiotathome79 · 19/06/2021 12:09

So I have never wrote about this before but I need some help maybe a bit of clarity.

Backstory
I have always had issues with eating from a very young age was extremely over weight , purging etc , in my 30s after weighing in at 24 stone I managed to shed 12 stone and what I thought was being healthy ( I no now I was restrictive no fat carbs no meal
Over 200 cals etc) then I fell pregnant and was diagnosed with pregnancy anorexia I was eating hand full of food a day , and went from 12.4 during pregnancy to 9.1
Anyway got help but I now find my self over weight again .

The issue I have at the moment besides being over weight is I woke up a few weeks back and have literally ate nothing but a lettuce leaf 4 cups of coffee with milk water and occasional squash since

I can't I tried i wretch panic and now I think if I start eating I gain weight it's like a vicious circle and I can't work out why the only change is a Someone I have grown close too , he hasn't mentioned my weight yet ( infact suffers with being overweight himself )

Is this a start of something awful or do you think it's gonna pass

Just to add I do have an appointment next week at the surgery

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Idiotathome79 · 19/06/2021 12:22

Sorry I just realised it sounds like I only had four cups of coffee , I have only ate once but every day I have 4 cups of coffee water and the odd squash

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RubyReigns · 19/06/2021 12:34

I’m no therapist but I’m a fellow eating disorder sufferer. Can you try beat online for some advise?
Are you spending meal times with this person? I always have to be alone with food or it makes me feel so guilty that I vomit.
Do you have any real life support who you can call or visit to talk it through?
Sorry I’m not much help my situation is very different to how yours is but please do contact someone and have an honest chat about things. Acknowledging there’s an issue is really good and a brilliant start to ensuring you don’t slip back too far (not very mumsnet-y but sending you a big hug because I know how scary it can be at this stage).

Idiotathome79 · 19/06/2021 12:40

Thank you ,
No meal times with him ,
I don't have any support that's why I made the appointment .
hell no-ones actually realised I haven't eaten ( I have children , adult children)
I split from my husband early part of year from a marriage of domestic abuse , so I don't know if it's just caught up with me .
Thanks again

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RubyReigns · 19/06/2021 14:22

@Idiotathome79

Thank you , No meal times with him , I don't have any support that's why I made the appointment . hell no-ones actually realised I haven't eaten ( I have children , adult children) I split from my husband early part of year from a marriage of domestic abuse , so I don't know if it's just caught up with me . Thanks again
Ah I'm sorry. Please feel free to talk to me if talking helps. I'm not very good with advice but I'm a very good listener :)
Tal45 · 19/06/2021 15:05

I would get help again, much, much better to get help at the first sign then to allow it to potentially escalate. If you think it might be the relationship having a negative effect then maybe you're just not ready yet. Perhaps just concentrate on yourself for a bit longer x

Idiotathome79 · 19/06/2021 15:24

@Tal45 I think your right , he's just too sweet , I'm gonna have to chat too him and explain the situation .

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