Really worried about DH and his ED

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DH has an ED. He's just starting seeing a counsellor and acknowledging it as an issue but I'm still really worried about him. I don't know how best to support him as up until this point I think I've been making it worse because of my fear. His weight is dangerously low, he's feeling cold all the time and barely has any energy. I'm permanently really worried about him. Is there anything at all I can do to help or do I just have to let it play out and ignore my fears?

Just to add, he won't go and see his GP and me pushing the issue previously has just made things worse.

What are your fears and why do you think they are influencing your partner?

Hi @CountTessa thank you for your reply. He seems to be getting worse with the ED in the sense of losing weight, physical symptoms etc. and my fear is that if he doesn't start eating more then he'll get worse and eventually won't come back from it. I feel like my fears are affecting him because I get scared, say he should go to the doctors or that he's not eating enough which then pushes him away further. He feels like I'm trying to control him (I'm not trying to, I'm just terrified) and then I think that makes him use food (or lack of) to try and take control over his life.

That sounds like a quite reasonable understanding... But you are right to be concerned.
I don't have any advice because I think it's quite personal about how he manages his food and eating and should be done in consultation with a health professional.

But I see where you are coming from. Good luck to you both.

Have you asked him how he would like you to support him? I think that would be the best course of action. You have to understand though that you are not responsible for his behaviour and cannot fix or save him, it has to come from him with professional help. It's good that he is acknowledging it now and seeing a counsellor. I would really recommend some counselling for you to help you deal with the impact this has on you. xxx

I think you need more professional advice. It's sounds like you need a plan for if it gets worse. Research clinics and psychiatrists, who can take action. There are also eating disorder charities that have information. It must be very difficult for you, good luck

Beat, the eating disorders charity, have a helpline that also supports people who are concerned for the welfare of others and a peer support service.