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Getting help for someone else

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Spottysausagedogs · 29/09/2020 22:51

My DH and I watched the documentary with Freddy Flintoff last night. It's brought out some realisations for my DH. We had a chat tonight and have casually formed the conclusion that he may have been suffering from bulimia for a long time (15 years+, possibly most of his life from being a teen) This is more to do with 'purging' by using natural laxatives. I've known since we met that he has an unhealthy relationship with food but this purging aspect has just suddenly come into focus after watching the programme, I dont think either of us realised that's what he was doing, if that makes any sense?

Anyway, he's a classic "just ignore it and carry on" type, very northern bloke (for want of a better phrase, no offence to anyone!), doesn't believe in therapy, think he'd rather die than do all that. I despair and have done for years. I know I can't force him I wouldnt ever try, but I want to gently look into it for him. I think it's the way "seeking help" is framed to him, he doesnt want to feel like a victim. I feel something like CBT might help him but I just don't know if there's an easy way to get into that, bypassing having to talk face to face with GP, mental health councillors etc.

Has anyone been in this situation before? I guess I should start by talking to the GP myself, but thats all so awkward at the moment too.

I hope I don't come across as pushy, he is totally his own person/grown adult i know that, but watching the cycle go on year after year is soul crushing. I really want to help him if I can.

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whereisthejoy · 18/10/2020 21:26

Sorry you've had no answers yet @Spottysausagedogs

I'd contact Beat. And there is lots of advice on their website around supporting someone -

https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/supporting-someone

Scroll down for more links to read on the above. And good luck. You sound like a wonderfully supportive wife Smile

Schmoozer · 18/10/2020 21:31

I think it’s amazing that FF has spoken out as many men assume that Eating disorders services don’t expect to see men, when they really do, and are very used to Treating them,
Contact your local GP and ask for assessment for eating disorder
It can respond very well to
Treatment

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