12 year old potential ED

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So I think my partners little sister has bulimia. Shes 12years old, super quiet, obsessed with her phone/tv and has very few friends/real life relationships in general. I try to engage with her as much as possible but it's hard, she has the worst diet I know of and her mother doesnt encourage healthy eating at all.

I myself have struggled with bulimia from a young age, maybe 13/14, but since having my child I've managed to keep it controlled- breastfeeding makes me so hungry!!

The other day I saw her go to the bathroom very quickly after eating, take a while in there and come out with red eyes and tying to clear her throat. These are all things that triggered my bulimia and memories of what I used to do.

I dont know how to approach it, if at all.. What if I'm wrong? Which I dont think I am to be honest. I dont think her mum will be supportive, I dont think she will accept support from me and I dont even know if I'm strong enough to give it to her. Any advice?

Hi I have no real experience of this problem but didn't want to leave you unanswered. Could you coach her without mentioning the problem, if you see what I mean. Maybe talk to her about someone you know and how they got help or ask her about who she would go to if she had a problem with anything. How will your partner react? He should know so I think you have to tell him first really.

Hi OP
Tread carefully is my only advice. My mum thought I was bullimic once when I came out of the bathroom coughing with red eyes (i had a hangover!) And dragged me to the gp. Look to see if she has teeth marks on her hands? And just try encourage trust in her.