I am at a complete loss as to how to help my sister. She is now dangerously ill with anorexia and barely eating at all. Yesterday she collapsed and hit her head. She is still driving, although my mum has asked her not to. She is on a high dose of anti-anxiety meds but these are just dulling her emotions and are not helping her to eat more. Yesterday she saw a therapist for the first time, who asked her to keep a food diary and come back in a week. She has been being monitored by her GP, who referred her to the therapist, and to be honest I am shocked that they cannot see she is an urgent case. A food diary is ridiculous - there will be one apple a day written on there, if that. I am going to see her tomorrow and I really don't know what to say to her. All the guidance I have read suggests talking about food not feelings, but she can't express her feelings coherently - at this stage her lack of food is preventing her from thinking straight.
She is texting me a lot which is difficult. Yesterday I asked her how I could best help her, but she could not come up with anything concrete. She does not want to be reminded to eat, wants no help preparing food, and yet hates feeling as if the rest of the family is 'watching her'. She does not participate in meals but hangs around in the kitchen. The tensions is unbearable.
She is 30 and has moved back into my mum's. She is signed off work and has been for a while.
Does anyone with any experience of dealing with this know how I can best help her??????