I’m 45, partner 52. After 4 years (on our own - the lack of NHS support is a whole
other thread), we finally fell pregnant in 2025 but there was no development beyond 6-8 weeks, which we’ve been told was likely chromosomal. A couple of months after the miscarriage, my cycles returned to normal. I am a slave to my Mira device.
Even if we did manage to get pregnant again, the odds are so stacked against a ‘normal’ pregnancy and outcome that we think IVF with donor egg is the next option. (We are open to donor sperm as well but the egg is more likely). But there is so much information out there I’m lost where to start.
Do you find your own egg or once you pick a clinic do they do that for you? There seems to be lots of stuff online about registers and lists and that part isn’t clear. How do you pick a clinic - is there a trip advisor style site for IVF? How soon could we get going? So many people seem to go abroad but I don’t think that will be practically possible for us.
From the research I’ve done, we don’t qualify for the finance / guarantee schemes so would be entirely funding this ourselves. Am I right in thinking it’s going to be about £15k?