Being pregnant via a donor and not your BF/Husband. Would you?

[BrightLights989]

If your BF/husband were to suggest that he was fine with you getting pregnant via a donor. Whether that's because he was infertile or he didn't want to pass his own genes on (for whatever reason) but was more than happy to be the legal father for the child(ren). Would you be fine/comfortable with the offer?

Lots of women get pregnant through the use of donor sperm despite being with a long term partner - and for lots of reasons. You said 'whatever the reason' - so if the reason is insignificant and it's the principle you are asking about, then yes of course it's fine, as I said, lots of women do it.

The only one I have come across back 2015 was the women was blonde with blue eyes and the BF (with a different phenotype) wanted her to have a child that was more likely to resemble her characteristics as he felt she would ultimately be happy if one of their potential children did.
Assuming it's not a medical/genetic condition or the example I gave, what could the "lots of reasons" be?

You know, even with your own genetics, your child might look differently from you. We are both Caucasian, olive skin, dark eyes, both get tanned very quickly and our genetic daughter is blonde with blue eyes, looks nothing like us.

True, i've seen mixed people with blonde hair/light eyes. See Nigerian men with the bluest of eye, but if the women (in this case) is the one with the features already, having sperm from a man who has the same will more likely produces it. Just going off probability.

Not sure what the point in this thread is.. especially since it has been posted in donor conception!

Well thanks for your input that adds noting to the conversation. There's so many subsections just in pregnancy alone. It's a donor question in a donor thread.

@BrightLights989 I think the other poster might find it a little odd that you are asking if people would in general be open to using donor sperm within a donor conception thread...kind of like going onto a vegan thread and asking if people would be open to eating vegetables...I think you can presume that within a donor conception thread, people will be open to donor conception.

If it's just because of a preference about the way the child looks then it is not ethical to withhold a genetic connection just because you want them to have blonde hair (or whatever feature), if that's what you're asking.

If you use a donor, the child will not be raised with their biological father.

I'm not sure why you would do that if you have a choice. If the child has a chance to have a genetic connection then you should give them that.

But lots of people, including myself, have used donor sperm for other reasons, whether that is male infertility, lesbian couples, or single mum by choice. In those scenarios it gives people a real chance of having children who otherwise couldn't.