Conception (or not) counselling/hard truths recommendations?

[MojoMoon]

Hello
I am 39, currently single and would like to hear any recommendations for counselling to help me make some decisions and give me some hard facts/data so I suspect they may need to be more like fertility professional than a general therapist?

I feel like if I am going to freeze eggs, it needs to be ASAP but also I am not sure if I really want to have a child alone or not.
But if I do decide that I do want to parent alone(or - which seems even more unlikely given dating is awful - I meet a nice suitable man) in the future, then will I regret not having done it? Is it even something that I have any chance at succeeding with as it may already be too late?

Probably should add that I am in London but would travel if someone has a great recommendation

The success rates of IVF is relatively low for 39 year olds especially those using their own eggs. The success rate of IVF in general using frozen eggs is very low. So for you I would recommend looking for a counsellor who can help you think about whether to try to have your own biological child right now, rather than thinking about egg freezing.

Perhaps you could have a look on the Donor Conception Network? Their destination parenthood course might help, or even just a look around their website might give you some food for thought.

You can look for accredited counsellors with experience in infertility.

Don't rush into having a child if you're not sure. The previous poster is not wrong in saying that success rates with frozen eggs might be low, but you will need some time to make a decision. Research may point to freezing embryos if you go ahead as a single parent by choice (I know the 'by choice' part can be not entirely true).

It’s definitely worth having fertility tests if you haven’t already (amh, fsh, follicle count etc) to give you some idea of whether it’s worth freezing eggs at your age (unfortunately unless you are lucky and get great results for your age I suspect not).

In terms of freezing embryos with donor sperm and potentially becoming a SMBC, its probably not too late yet and I agree with PP it’s worth contacting the Donor Conception Network for advice (they might even have advice about/lists of counsellors) or Emily Engel’s “Going it alone” Solo Mum’s book is also a helpful read (one of the only SMBC books that’s UK focused).