Marriage before treatment

[Lec92]

Hi everyone,

We’re still about 6 months+ off of starting treatment (nhs funded) and tonight I was reading the leaflet about becoming legal parents- it sounds like these forms are so important and so much can go wrong that it’s surely easier to just get legally married before starting treatment? And does anyone know if the legal parenthood status is the same with the forms and marriage? We’d be getting married at some point along the line so don’t know if it’s better to just elope before treatment!

Hi OP,
We knew we wanted to be married so planned our wedding before diving in to treatment as we didn’t want to go through the rigmarole of all the forms and we know that when we are fortunate enough to hold our baby they will be ours, by name and in the eyes of the legal system. We found good advice in the book ‘Sperm not included’ if you’re looking to guidance to navigate this! Good luck 🤞🏼

Hi OP. You don't need to be married in order for your partner to become the legal parent. You would just need to fill in an extra form, that's all.

If you want to get married anyway then you should definitely do it (and it's obviously a good idea before having kids for lots of other reasons!)

But this shouldn't be the sole reason for getting married as it's definitely not needed from the legal parenthood perspective.