Views from DCP or donors

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We have been on a long journey involving failed IVF and recurrent loss, and are now considering using donor eggs. I am still in two minds about this.

Over the last 6 months I have accessed lots of resources and read lots of online information, listened to podcasts / webinars and read some books.

From this, I am clear that I would be open with any donor conceived child from the start and I would support them if they wanted to make contact, or build a relationship with their donor in later life. We would be using a U.K. based donor and I have requested an altruistic donor (rather than a donor via an egg sharing programme, for example) as I feel more comfortable with this approach.

In all my research I am probably lacking a sufficient range of views from DCP, or donors themselves.

I'm really keen to hear views from more DCP - how do you feel about being donor conceived? About your parents' donor? And your parents?

Donors - what made you decide to donate? Do you have any regrets later in life? How do you feel about a child contacting you later in life?

Thank you for your help

Will be following with interest. We are also beginning our donor egg journey and I agree strongly with you about the open ID donor rather than anonymous. I am waiting to hear from the London Egg Bank about an initial consultation.

I'm so sorry about your recurrent losses. We were very lucky to have a daughter from IVF but it's secondary infertility that we are now facing, coupled with my age (just turned 44). We've been on the IVF path for over 5 years. Have never done anything else in my life that has been as hard!

@loulamay I know, I agree with you - this is such a challenging journey. I'm 38 but unfortunately my ovaries aren't playing ball and I think I might be in perimenopause.

Let me know how you find the London Egg Bank. I'm using another clinic atm but was looking at the LEB online.

Hiya - I've had the first call with someone in London and they went through all the details in full - how the whole thing work, pricing, donor selection - she was super thorough and it was great. We have decided to go for the 10 egg package and so the next step is a consultation with one of the Dr's after which we can get registered and start looking at the donor profiles. Feeling quite excited!

I'm (sperm) donor conceived and I'd be happy to answer any questions over PM 🙂