Failed FET with donor eggs… where now?

[EternalOptimism]

Hello anyone and everyone.

I've had several miscarriages in the space of five years, and a few months ago went down the route of donor egg ivf with my husbands sperm.

I had a transfer two weeks ago which I’ve just found out failed. I wonder if anyone has advice on how to approach next steps.

i feel as if I have got so used to failure and loss, to the point that this almost feels quite numb. We do have one remaining embryo, but it’s a lower quality than the one implanted earlier this month.

thank you so much for reading

I didn’t want to read and run. It was only this morning I read on an infertility forum that a lady had had success with her lesser grades embryo when her ‘good’ one didn't work!

IVF can be a huge experiment. You could always ask about extra testing. Maybe progesterone on transfer day?

I would also recommend a fertility coach.

Thank you so much for replying - I’ve been in high dose progesterone for a month now so thankfully that’s in hand. Very heartening to hear about lesser grades, appreciate that

I really think embryo grading is more of beauty contest than anything else. So called ‘perfect’ embryos can fail. The wonky ones can become babies!

Beauty contest is a great way to look at it - thank you x

I think you should use that final embryo then have a think

Did you use a proven donor? Has she given eggs before that someone has had a success round? If so, maybe worth more investigations into husband like dna fragmentation in sperm.

I wouldn't write off that last embryo yet. Maybe after is a better time to evaluate. I have had a lot of ivf. I am very fortunate to have two children. Neither of them was the best embryo if their own batch, never mind best overall. But they are both perfect now.

Could you walk away from that embryo?

I'd try a transfer with the last remaining embryo and give it a chance.
We did three rounds with own eggs but they never developed properly and then had two rounds with donor eggs (three embryos in total). They also failed. I've suspected it was to do with DH's sperm (as well as my old eggs) but we've always been told that it was perfectly fine.
We've now done one round with double donation and I got a 5AA back. I'm on shitloads of progesterone but I'm currently 7 weeks pregnant and keep hoping that this one will stick.
There are always other options you can try out after, depending in how far you are willing to go. Good luck.