Becoming a parent again

[CatLady1987]

Hi there
I’m a single mum to a 4yo. I’ve been thinking about becoming a parent again as I’m 34 and feeling like time isn’t on my side to keep putting this to the back of my mind. My issue is this, I want another baby but I want to do it alone if I can. I’m open to other options such as co-parenting, but I don’t know much about that.

I’ve looked into IUI and fertility treatments for single women. The costs are astronomical and would clear out my savings. I don’t have tons of money but I’m smart with it and I give my child the best life I can. I don’t know what other options are out there and I’d love to hear others’ thoughts/advice. I haven’t been in a relationship for over 4 years and I can’t see that changing any time soon. The crux is that I simply can’t afford the clinic fees, but really would love the chance to be a mum again. I love my little one more than life itself, but my first experience of parenthood was not how it should have been and I think I owe it to myself to explore any options I have.

Many thanks for reading and I ask politely that if you don’t have anything constructive to say (moreover, if you don’t intend to be kind), please don’t comment.

Thanks so much

[Nearlythere80]

I think your only options then are egg or embryo sharing but those contracts need thinking about very carefully as you may end up with no embryo to use yourself

[ListerMummy]

You sound pretty certain you want to do this and that the only barrier is cost.

Have you looked into embryo donation? It is relatively low cost and offers relatively high success rates compared to other options.

[BlackGoldSun]

Time really isn’t on your side IF you would consider egg sharing to reduce your costs as there is a cut-off age for donors. That is assuming your own fertility is okay and the issue is that you are single. And you would still need to source sperm.
I would rather do it alone than co-parenting (if I were single, obviously co-parenting can be what you might have to do after a relationship breaks down).

[Tigger1116]

I would look into sperm donors for AI I’m going down the donor way as I’m single and 36 and trying for my 1st. Or do you have a friend that would be happy to help so you can keep your savings

[Okeydokedeva]

Try sites like pollen tree. I have a friend who had her ds from an altruistic donor. He got a monthly shag, she got a kid, but plenty will also pop it in a cup rather than have sex