So I’m in my early 20s, am a lesbian so looking for sperm donor. I would really prefer a known donor as I know some people who are donor conceived themselves and they say it’s preferable - in terms of getting up to date medical info and them being able to ask questions as a child etc - but I totally understand how for the hopeful parent, an anonymous donor feels safer.
For anyone who used a known donor, how did you find them? I don’t know any men who I’m close enough to to ask this. I’ve been looking on coparents.co.uk but I can’t quite tell how real it is, too many men seem to be just looking for NI.
Honestly just looking for any general advice or encouragement, I don’t have any friends TTC and only a couple of friends who have children, feels a bit scary not having anyone to talk to about this.
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CarlyChronicles · 07/11/2023 10:12
Sorrento79 · 16/11/2023 20:32
Yes i always thought known donor was a term used for sperm donation from someone you already know and trust. You seem to be seeking someone to donate sperm, be known to you and the child but not co-parent?
honestly there is lots of variety in the literature about donor children and how they feel etc, there seems to be lots of factors.
i wonder if this is the right time for you to be doing this? Are you single? Just feels quite young to me (at the other end of the reproductive age spectrum) and i wonder what life would be like for you and child practically right now?
Sorrento79 · 17/11/2023 08:20
Well there is still the planning on being a single mum aspect. Why the rush here?
IVFfirsttimer91 · 16/11/2023 22:28
We used a donor from London Sperm Bank. All of the medical history for the donor and his family (up to grandparents) was available to us. So if it’s medical stuff you’re worried about then i wouldn’t shy away from using banks.
CarlyChronicles · 17/11/2023 09:13
That’s good to know, that is a big part of what concerns me is the kid having a right to access their own medical information, it sounds like you felt reassured you had all the info you could need!
IVFfirsttimer91 · 16/11/2023 22:28
We used a donor from London Sperm Bank. All of the medical history for the donor and his family (up to grandparents) was available to us. So if it’s medical stuff you’re worried about then i wouldn’t shy away from using banks.
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