Hi,
So basically, in a dilemma at the moment, I met someone on a co-parent site, because I wanted to have another child in a similar way tfirst child, (my first born is DC via the clinic). However, I thought I was clear to the known donor that he would have some involvement in the child's life (we would be co-parent), so the child could know him as their biological father. However, he is still a donor, just a known one. The baby was conceived via artificial insemination at home. I thought we could be friends perhaps, and have a family dynamic, be friends, that kind of thing. However, I think the whole thing was a mistake. This man is not a nice person, even blocking me at one stage, because I told him he was a known donor, that would be a father to the baby. He needs time to make a decision if he wants to be in the child's life, when I thought it was clear from the outset. He is a known donor. I mean, what else would he be? We are not in relationships of an intimate nature, and we are not friends. It's been so stressful, communicating with this person, and I just want him out of my life. I don't want the child to not know her biological father, but the guy is horrible. And it dawned on me, we barely know each other, we have been talking for a year, but it doesn't seem long enough, and it's all just a mistake. I love my unborn child; I just don't think this person is someone I want to co-parent with. He wants to come to the next scan and be at the birth, but I don't want him there. I don't feel comfortable in his presence, too much as happened, in terms of him disrespecting me and just being a stressor.
How do you co-parent with someone you don't like or want in your life? I can and will be civil for the state of the child. Basically, stay away from known donor agreements, they are more stress than anything, and even if you give it ample time to kinda grasp the person you will be co-parenting with, a year for me wasn't long enough.