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IA sperm donation regret! Help

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Jackdat · 10/06/2022 08:12

Hi i donated sperm to a lesbian she used AI.

I thought it would of been nice gesture to help her.

i shouldn't have donated my sperm to them via home AI sperm donation.

now i cant sleep and have serious anxiety and I'm really stressed

i have enough problems in my own life without making extra. i feel like rubbish.
what is the likely hood she falls pregnant.

1). I ejaculated 5 times in a pot for her.

2). her partner used a syringe to squirt the sperm inside her.

3). This was during her ovulation.

4). She has PCOS

5)she was taking Clomiphene citrate

6) she had her legs raised under pillows

7) she was 28 i think

please can everyone tell me the likelihood honestly! i need everyones opinion on this.
help!

more comments the better

All doctors please respond too!

please respond

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NCgoingdry · 10/06/2022 08:21

Why now the sudden 180 in your decision?

None of us can tell you if she's pregnant or not. You'll likely find out in a few weeks when her period is due.

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Moonshine160 · 10/06/2022 08:28

No one can tell you whether she’s pregnant or not, you will have to wait and see.

Why offer if your life is already stressful at the moment?

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ChagSameachDoreen · 10/06/2022 08:49

How could anyone possibly know?

What an odd post.

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SpiderinaWingMirror · 10/06/2022 09:01

So what are you worried about and why?

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erinaceus · 10/06/2022 09:06

You said she was 28 -- was this some time ago, as in, if a child had been born that would already have happened, or was it more recent and the potential mother might be pregnant now?

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BrutusMcDogface · 10/06/2022 09:08

Yes, when was the insemination?

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Jackdat · 10/06/2022 09:09

It was Wednesday so the 7th

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Jackdat · 10/06/2022 09:09

i did this on the 7th this Wednesday just been.

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Jackdat · 10/06/2022 09:09

this Wednesday just been on the 7th

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ThatshallotBaby · 10/06/2022 09:10

What are you worried about?
Do you know her well?

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Jackdat · 10/06/2022 09:14

No not well at all. But she has my phone number too I’m worried it wasn’t done anonymously enough also. What if she tries to make me pay for the child I just tried helping a lesbian couple I didn’t think properly stuff through. I donated 5 sperm samples. That’s a lot during ovulation :’(

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LividLaVidaLoca · 10/06/2022 09:28

Why on earth did you do something like that without thinking it through and getting a proper legal agreement in place?

To change your mind so quickly shows how naive you were.

FYI, properly licensed fertility clinics will do counselling and health checks on their donors to make sure they know what they’re signing up for.

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Flederjo · 10/06/2022 09:33

A bit daft to just do something like that with nothing legal arranged. Could you arrange something now? Get all parties to sign something absolving you from parental rights in the case of a successful pregnancy?
Please get proper legal advice, which Mumsnet obviously isn't!

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Jackdat · 10/06/2022 09:34

What’s the likelihood though I’ve got her pregnant can you tell me please.

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Moancup · 10/06/2022 09:58

A healthy woman has approximately a 30% chance of conception if she has sex over ovulation.

You are all very stupid to have done this in such an unregulated way.

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riotlady · 10/06/2022 09:59

Jackdat · 10/06/2022 09:34

What’s the likelihood though I’ve got her pregnant can you tell me please.

Exactly 28.3%

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Jackdat · 10/06/2022 10:04

I know but how many times does she have to have sex? Etc I ejaculated 5 times. And I know I am very stupid

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erinaceus · 10/06/2022 10:25

In terms of managing expectations, I think you would need to consult a medical doctor or fertility expert to find out the probability that she has become pregnant. You will not be able to find out whether or not she is pregnant for something on the order of a couple of weeks from now. You could discuss your concerns with her, and whether or not she is prepared to use emergency contraception at this point. I do not think that would be an easy conversation to have.

I think other than that I would seek legal advice, as I am not sure what your situation would be legally in terms of responsibility for the child.

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mommynette · 16/06/2022 05:40

@Jackdat donating is an honourable thing, don't regret that, just sort what you need to sort out in a proper way next time.

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