Relationship or not?

[UsernameChange1990]

Hello, I am currently in a place in my life where the only way to have a child would be to use a Sperm Donor (partner had a vasectomy). I have been thinking about this for a long time. Although I am in a relationship I do think about being a Single Mother By Choice too. I feel so incredibly bad saying this as I have a partner but sometimes I don’t feel as happy as I would like to in my relationship. What are your experiences of being a Single Parent By Choice or of having a child using a donor? Thank you x

I wish more than anything to have a child and need to make the right decisions for them. I am not asking for relationship advice but more learn about things from experience from people who have been through or are going through Donor Conception. Any knowledge is very welcome x

I am in a relationship happily married but had a child via donor. Please don’t think that it’s an easy choice to make. You have to think carefully about why you’re doing it but also the implications for a potential child moving forward.

I would also be going through official clinics as it’s all legitimate and above board

I wouldn’t consider doing donor conception of the relationship isn’t good as it’s a hard long road.

@Lemonsandlemonade I don’t want to be in a relationship and I have been looking at being a Single Mother By Choice with a donor or potentially adoption. I have been looking into it thoroughly and also thinking about why I would choose this too. I have been looking into official clinics and sperm banks. I know it won’t be easy but I do have so much support from friends and family.

@UsernameChange1990
This was the best decision I made in my life.

We have an amazing life.

If you have aby questions feel free to PM me or ask here.

I'm a SMC to two boys. Best decision I ever made. Happy to answer any questions

When I said it wasn’t an easy choice I meant using a donor should t be taken lightly.

@Lemonsandlemonade It’s alright, I knew what you meant. I know it shouldn’t be viewed as an easy way of having children. I’m not seeing it like that though. I have done a lot of research and I’m learning more and more all the time. I wouldn’t do something if I didn’t know what I was doing. I have been thinking about this for a long time as well.

@UsernameChange1990 how old are you and have you had any fertility tests yet?

@Cally70 I’m 31 and in the process of fertility tests.

The vasectomy can be reversed so no need for a donor but it sounds like he's not your Mr Right. You are young and can leave this relationship and meet the man of your dreams to have a family with.

I have had terrible past relationships, like some horror movie. Eventually realised I am better off alone, I have always liked my own company anyways. I did the solo mum/donor situation. It was stressful so much medical testing and procedures but so worth it. It's hard work continued into pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum and on and on and on... so it's best to have a trustworthy person like a doula, therapist, friend or family member for moral support.