Dear all,
After three IVF cycles and three miscarriages since 2020, my husband and I are considering egg donation in Portugal. It is important for me that our future child is able to identify the donor, so we chose Portugal as they only do non-anonymous egg donation. I am also of Portuguese descent, so it may be easier to find a compatible donor. For the ladies doing DE treatment in Portugal:
*What clinic did you choose? At present we are considering IVI Lisbon.
*How long did it take for the clinic to find you a compatible donor?
*How much was the treatment, if you don't mind me asking?
*How did you get the medication required for embryo transfer? Did your local clinic accept a Portuguese prescription?
Thank you so much for your help with this!
On the Mumsnet Donor Conception forum, you can discuss sperm and egg donation with people in the same situation.
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Fabsco · 25/03/2022 12:05
GK2022 · 26/06/2022 16:49
Dear Fastfad,
I am very sorry to hear this. Did you discuss it with the doctors? What did they say? I did my egg donation ivf in Portugal. And I also got pregnant the first time (now 6 weeks). The donor selection should be made partly by a computer scanning your face and partly by similar appearance according to a doctor and partly by genetic screening blood type etc. I understand it is very difficult to match everything, but if you say you look like diffrent races that doesn't feel good. But to be honest, if I look at my baby pictures, I didn't look like my parents at all. This did not change until I was a teenager. They were white, I was tanned, they had straight hair, I had curly hair, they were a little chubby, I was like bones only. But I am 100% sure they are my genetic parents. Later the similarities came. So give it some time. Maybe the appearance will change by time. But even if it doesn't this baby is yours. And he or she chose you as a mother. I believe you have this baby for a reason... I was also very curious and a little bit anxious if the donor would look like me, but I have already adjusted my expectations on appearance. The fact that I hopefully will have a healthy baby surpasses all other feelings. If you go on the street and look at the first 1000 or even 10000 people you meet, you propably won't see no one you think she looks like you. But maybe others will, just like they will see similarities with you and your baby. And people stare for many reasons, not always why we think they stare.
Fastfad · 13/09/2023 22:51
Thank you! I've only just seen this. The problem is that the doctors were never on hand to speak we had only to speak to the admin people for most of the time, and their english wasn't good. They said they had chosen a donor who looked like me but they located the donor before we sent the pictures and it wasnt clear if later they made a match using a computer, I think they had just used the descriptions of us on the form and then were spurred on by the match of the egg to the sperm, they are hell bent on success rates rather than customer service. It is still a real issue and I wish i could sue those f""kers, as much as I adore my kid, who is definitely mine and I know I'm lucky etc. but this was a rip off and a betrayal of our faith.
GK2022 · 26/06/2022 16:49
Dear Fastfad,
I am very sorry to hear this. Did you discuss it with the doctors? What did they say? I did my egg donation ivf in Portugal. And I also got pregnant the first time (now 6 weeks). The donor selection should be made partly by a computer scanning your face and partly by similar appearance according to a doctor and partly by genetic screening blood type etc. I understand it is very difficult to match everything, but if you say you look like diffrent races that doesn't feel good. But to be honest, if I look at my baby pictures, I didn't look like my parents at all. This did not change until I was a teenager. They were white, I was tanned, they had straight hair, I had curly hair, they were a little chubby, I was like bones only. But I am 100% sure they are my genetic parents. Later the similarities came. So give it some time. Maybe the appearance will change by time. But even if it doesn't this baby is yours. And he or she chose you as a mother. I believe you have this baby for a reason... I was also very curious and a little bit anxious if the donor would look like me, but I have already adjusted my expectations on appearance. The fact that I hopefully will have a healthy baby surpasses all other feelings. If you go on the street and look at the first 1000 or even 10000 people you meet, you propably won't see no one you think she looks like you. But maybe others will, just like they will see similarities with you and your baby. And people stare for many reasons, not always why we think they stare.
perlach · 21/11/2023 23:08
Hi, is there anybody who could share their experiences with either Ginemed or AVA clinic in Lisbon?
I'm still undecided for which clinic I should opt and would really appreciate to read about your experiences with either one of the two clinics.
Hope to hear from you!!!
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