Egg donation for family member

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Just looking for opinions from people.

I had been considering egg donation as an altruistic thing to do for a few years.

I have a close family member who has had a really heartbreaking obstetric history. Miscarriages, rare medical problems, emotionally incredibly difficult things.

She is getting older and also has the fear of advancing age adding to these issues.

I have 2 kids, just had my second.

It crossed my mind that I might freeze some eggs just in case my family member would ever want to use them. There are companies where you donate half the eggs and bank the other half to use in future. The costs are mostly covered and then there is a set fee for storage each year.

Thing is, I'm getting a bit old myself. The deadline for these things seems to be 35 and I'm almost 34. Would need to act quickly.

And. Too close to the most recent baby loss to discuss with my family member. She is grieving.

Is this a ridiculous idea?
I wouldn't have to tell them I'm doing it. Or would that be insensitive?
I would do anything to help this family member and not increase her suffering. If she didn't need them I could donate the other half.
Just feels like because I can afford the upfront costs I could be a safety net. I'd always thought in my head I would be a surrogate for them if they needed but that isn't currently the issue

How would you feel if relative doesn’t want them so you donate them to someone else then, 18 years later, you are contacted by a child that was conceived with one of your eggs?
Would you, for example, donate a kidney/money to them?
What if they had a troubled upbringing? If they were not a good person & started causing trouble saying they never asked to be born & it’s not fair your DC had a better life, would you tell them not to contact you again?

Donating eggs is something you need to have a serious think about tbh. After several cycles of ivf -one of which resulted in only 4 eggs- it isn’t something to go into lightly. It’s brutal to inject yourself daily, have daily vaginal scans and go through egg harvesting.The success rates using frozen eggs aren’t brilliant either unfortunately.

Egg-freezing: What's the success rate? www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-51463488

It really is a wonderfully generous thing to consider doing but I think you would be best to book a consultation with a clinic to discuss it all before you consider mentioning it to your family member.