Advice wanted - becoming a dad

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Hi.

Grateful for any advice.

I’m a gay man and I’d like to be a dad. I’m interested in donating sperm to a lesbian couple or single woman.

I’d like to be involved in the girl/boy’s life, but only in a way that her/his mum (or mums) is happy with.

Does anyone have any advice on the best way to do this/where I should be looking?

Appreciate any feedback.

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Hi, you can look on these websites; pride angel, co-parent match and pollen tree. You create a profile and can set out what relationship you would like.

I found my sperm donor on an app called Just a Baby.

It's worth thinking long and hard about what type of arrangement you're looking for. Many women and same sex couples are looking for no ongoing relationship with the sperm donor whereas others are more open to co-parenting. There's a channel 4 documentary about coparenting on at the moment, that's just started.

As long as you're really up front about what you're looking for, hopefully you can find someone who is looking for the same.

Hi. I hope I'm not taking over your thread. However I'm feeling exactly the same as a single woman who is desperate to have a child and exploring all the options available. I'm sending you lots of positive vibes to achieve the outcome you desire.

There are lots of groups on Facebook which are free

Thank you for your suggestions. Personally I don't feel that bringing a child into the world conceived by a donor on Facebook is the route I would like for my child, however I appreciate everyone has their own preferences.

hi OP, I would recommend talking to a few female friends with whom you already have close, loving relationships with excellent communication. It sounds like you want to co-parent (to some extent) rather than just providing sperm and imo co-parenting relationships work best when there's a really solid existing friendship between the adults. If none of your women friends are interested in co-parenting, maybe they know other women who are, and you could become friends with and talk this over with them? In my experience once most people in an LGBTQ friendship circle have hit their mid 30s there are more and more conversations about co-parenting, donor conception & queer family building. Good luck x