Donors who let you down

[akmum18]

I found a great sperm donor around 6 months ago online, we got on great and he lives local to me. I have tried two inseminations from him, neither worked as I’m unsure if I ovulated at all those times. I already have children but my cycles are irregular now.
I’m just feeling disheartened now that the donor has been avoiding me and making excuses not to come. I recently ovulated to my amazement, but he didn’t show or reply to my texts when it had been arranged in advance. It’s upset me a lot as I know he has his own life but he could have let me know. I have turned down several other donors in the past 6 months as he’d promised to see it through until I was pregnant. I now feel that I will have to restart my search.
2 years ago this happened to me also but with a different man. I gave up as it was painful being messed around, and now it’s happened again when I thought things would be different.
Has anyone on here been through this? Did you find a new donor or did you try and sort things out to stick with one? Would you continue to make contact in hope of him donating again or give up?

(To add all donations handed over were social distanced and we have both been tested for stds and Covid)

I’ve been let down one way or another by several donors @akmum18 and they don’t seem to understand how important timing is. So you ask them if they can make a certain day and they’ll reply with not, but I can do next Tuesday’ by which time you’ve ovulated and your window has passed.

I’m sorry you’re going through this and although you’re right that it isn’t as important to them, I don’t think that should be agreeing to something they’re not prepared to see through. They have to realise how desperate we are to have a child if we’re prepared to meet some guy off the internet to make it happen!

I think you need to find someone else, if he’s let you down once he’ll do it again. If he had a genuine reason it wouldn’t have taken him 2 minutes to reply to you and explain. You won’t trust again that he’s going to keep his word.

In the end you have to do what you’re comfortable with.

Thank you for your reply, you are right.
It’s so important and I’m desperate for a baby after many years of waiting, he knows this which makes it harder. It could take many months or years to find another suitable donor and I’m nearing my 40s quickly so time is running out. Many females in my family began their menopause at 36 which worries me as I’m 38 now and my periods are becoming irregular.
I hope you found a good donor in the end, or are you still looking?

I have one at the moment @akmum18 I’m 9/10 dpo today fully expecting Af to arrive at the weekend.

Good luck in your quest for a new donor x

Thank you, fingers crossed for you I really hope you get a bfp x

Thank you @akmum18