Telling people

[smileygirl1995]

So how did you all broach the subject of telling family, friends loved ones etc that you used a sperm donor (or egg donor) just wanted to see if I can find a good way to approach the subject with my family.
Few points I will mention I will be going it alone in planning on being a single mum.
I'm 25 but due to health issues I am wanting to try earlier then others would agree with (no mean comments or telling me I'm to young plz)
My family I'm sure will be very supportive, I'm just curious How others went about telling people :)

Hey, I didn't want to read and run. I haven't really had to tell anyone yet. My mums been suggesting I use a sperm donor for years. (She's given up hope that I'll meet someone. Lol.) so it was just telling her and my sisters that I had decided to go for it. It wasn't a huge surprise for them.

I just found out I'm pregnant so I'll wait until I'm 12 weeks before I tell anyone else. So far only my mum knows. Couldn't hide it from her because she had to babysit my daughter so I could go meet my donor. I have no idea how to explain it to my 88 year old grandad... but with everyone else I figured I'd just say I'm pregnant and it's a donor. I'll tell them I always wanted another child and decided to go it alone, take control of my own life.

25 really isn't that young. You're definitely old enough to know what you want from your own life. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your choices.

Thank you for your reply, how old are if you don't mind me asking? I feel if I was older then it would be more accepted as in my clock was ticking, but I've wanted this for about over 7yrs this was always going to be the way I go I've been talking with my donor for all that time literally I first spoke to him when I was 18 (I realise now I was to young then, and I'm glad he could see that to, he said he's wait till I was older and if I still wanted to he'd be happy to help)
It's great when you find a good/nice donor there was a lot of creeps to go through first obviously.

My Nan is the same haha she's 75 but I realise she's gonna probably struggle the most, I think I've sort of built it up in my head and when it come to the time that I need to tell everyone In sure they'll be fine, gonna be plenty of nosey people wanting to know all the details but depending how close I am to the person I ain't telling them squat it's none of there business, haha 😂
Congrats by the way!!!!
How long did it take for you to conceive? Did you do ai or ni (sorry if to personal) xx

Haha don't worry, nothings off limits in these forums. That why they're so handy.

I'm 33. My donor is a stranger I met online so I said I'd only do AI. Don't let him pressure you into sex if that's not what you want. It's not necessary to get pregnant. I still can't quite believe it but I got pregnant first try. I've been incredibly lucky. Fingers crossed it's a sticky bean.

I think the older generations will find it a bit harder to understand, but things have moved on and we're perfectly capable of doing this on our own.

Do you have a plan on when/how you're going to start trying?

I'm planning on trying beginning of next year, want to try and lose another few stone before I ttc as I am on the larger side and want to be able to be a healthy mum and run around with my kids, I see so many people that don't because they can't, (hey I'm like it with my niece, because I'm bigger I find it harder to join in with her when she's playing about) I don't want that for my own kids, I'm also doing it for her to, to be able to be the fun auntie she wants lol
My donor is also a stranger but actually after talking for 7yrs I don't feel so much like he's a stranger anymore, I was first going to do natural methods but he actually suggested trying ai first and see how I feel, I think he was worried I wouldn't want to do it that way as he's a bit older then me I don't know, he's absolutely lovely and not pressured at all I probably will do ai as is feel more comfortable that way.

I put a post on here earlier in the week about how to tell my sister, as she's talking about her and her partner also trying for a baby together, it's her I worry about most because I don't want her to be off with me thinking I'm stealing her thunder I want her to be happy for me the same I would be for her.
My mum has been a huge support, she worries about how people will be with me going with a donor, she's worried about the backlash from family of an older generation.
But like I said to her if I have her my sister and my dad on board is fine, this is something I've wanted for a long time it's only due to my recent health problems (diagnosis of pcos) that I'm going ahead next year I probably would have left it a bit longer if not (actually probably not haha 😂)
Huge congrats on your first catch please keep me posted how everything gores for you that's great news!!!! :) xx