First IVF negative but feel pregnant & now so low

[Babytales13]

Hi. I am 40 and a single woman. I just did my first round of IVF and was told to come in today to check if I was pregnant. I had ALL the symptoms and perhaps my expectations were very high, but I was so sure. I got a HCG of 1 and was told it was for sure that I am not pregant earlier this evening. Now I am getting cramping and obviously feeling devastated. It could be the power of the mind but I’m blown away and confused. Could it be wrong?
I moved from the UK three years ago and now live oversees. I have come especially to have IVF as where I live it really isn’t an option (another continent) and I’m more secure where I feel comfortable. This has been so expensive in terms of time and finances and emotions. And I’m getting so frustrated living out of a suitcase! But now with nothing to show for it 😔 I don’t know how to proceed now? How soon can I implant my one good frozen egg ? Did I do something to contribute? I’m just so confused upset and angry. Please let me know if anyone has had anything similar. 🙏

Sorry to hear that OP. You need to check with your clinic about that frozen embryo.

Are you planning on any more fresh cycles?

I went into Ivf expecting to need three cycles, just because the success rates aren't great and there is some cumulative improvement in probability of success. And I needed three cycles!

I'm sorry your cycle didn't work out this time. In terms of the physical sensations, it's always important to remember that the medications can mimic a lot of the symptoms of early pregnancy (progesterone, in particular), so unfortunately you can't really trust what you're feeling, in that respect. If an HCG blood test has been done, then I'm afraid that's a very conclusive test.

There's nothing you did or didn't do that made this happen - it's unfortunately quite common for IVF to not work, especially once you're in your 40s. Your clinic will be able to advise on when you can do an FET (and it's great that you have one in the freezer to transfer!)

For now, just take care of yourself. I hope you'll feel a bit better soon.

Thank you 🙏 I just thought why shouldn’t it work? And I now feel rather stupid. I’m waiting to hear from the doc as she’s not back till Monday and in the meantime trying not to mentally keep kicking myself.

Thank you 🙏

How are you doing now?

Are you staying on for a FET?

Hi. I’m so much better. I completely shut down had my dad time and then kicked my own butt and got back on the horse. I have an Implantation with the only frozen egg tomorrow afternoon but today I feel a serious UTI coming on 🙈🙏💔 so now I’m not sure what to do! It’s never smooth sailing I suppose