To rock the boat 1 year after house sale for £25,000

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A year ago we sold our house and separated. Been living separate lives for a long time before that. We were married, so I knew it should have been 50/50 split on the house sale. However, as the sale progressed he mentioned that he had put in £50,000 more deposit than me, so he should get more from the sale. I just agreed as I wanted everything over quickly.

Now we are 1 year down the line and thinking about the divorce. Was I stupid to agree with him? We both have our own houses now, things are going ok money wise, but I can see my savings dwindling.

He has credit card debt, no savings. I have around 10,000 savings. Will also inherit at some point down the line, but hopefully not for many years yet. He has no family. We earn roughly the same, but my pension will not be as big as I took time off, then went part-time after the children (am full time now).

We get on really well, hence why I don't want to rock the boat. He pays maintenance, even although oldest is now over 18. The kids stay at his roughly once/twice a week.

I don't think my conscience will let me try claim the £25,000 back. If its even possible now? Probably make the solicitors fees more expensive and also damage out relationship.

Anyone else been in a similar situation? Just looking for a bit of perspective. Its not worth it - is it?

Same situation and I took my initial deposit back and we split the rest 50/50. I would have been devastated if he had insisted he gets half of everything as my paying for deposit up front was done in good faith that it be returned should we split up .

That ship has sailed OP. You get on reasonably well, he pays maintenance, has no family and greater debt. Even if you could revisit which if you ended all financial claims via a court order you can’t, it doesn’t sound like morally it would be the right thing to do.

I wouldn't make a claim on his deposit personally. You will have to see what he discloses regarding pension vs yours before making a final decision on what you'd like to accept.

Don’t touch it. All the money will be eaten up in lawyers fees. You had your moment a year ago. Plus you will terminate a happy relationship, where you might need him in the future. Drop it.