Divorced parents: staying in the family home or moving out?

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For people who have divorced with school-age children, do you regret being the parent that remained in the family home or the parent that move into a new place? What impact did it have on your finances, wellbeing, and relationship with your children?

My OH and I are looking to separate and I need to make some very big life decisions on what a best outcome looks like with regards to housing and whether I should be the parent that stays in the current home our kids were born in or the parent that finds a new place.

My ex bought me out and I moved to a new house. I was very sorry to leave, because it was a lovely house, but he had to sell off part of the garden in order to raise money. It was fine - and when I met current DH, he was eventually happy to move in with me because it had only ever been my house, not the former marital home. Ultimately, OP, it will come down to finances, and who can afford what.

I think it depends on all the factors, but without a doubt the worst part of the divorce for my kids has been moving into worse accommodation.
It was really the only point XH focused on, getting me (fuck the kids!) out of what he saw as being his house.

If possible, keep the children in that home and buy him out/agree to see it later.

I should clarify that we'd be looking at an even split of child care so kids would spend 50/50 time in each house

It depends on finances. Too many women ( imo) fight too hard to remain in a house they can’t really afford sacrificing other things.

I personally understand the emotions tied up in a home but if you’re overstretching to do so the better option is to buy something that doesn’t do that and just make sure it’s a happy home,

I moved out prior to divorce and got my own place. I couldn’t wait to leave the house, I hated it. Once the divorce was completed I bought my own place. No regrets.

Depends on finances really...

I can see there being a real advantage in moving to a new place (as long as equivalent broadly in comfort, even if not size), and making it an exciting new place - for you psychologically without the taint of the divorce. Depends too on the character of the kids. As long as your new home doesn't require a change in schools etc

Personally I stayed in the marital home which I enjoyed - v nice house. Plus I enjoyed cleaning out debris of my ex and making it my own

STBEXH bought me out and I moved into a much smaller, but still nice house.

I could have afforded the old marital home just about on my own, but it was huge, way too big for just me 50% of the time and would have left me with very little spare cash. Its only been 2 months since I moved out and whole there is difficulties, On the whole I love it.

The worst parts are the kids making innocent remarks about my house and garden being much smaller, I know it's not meant in any way, but it just stings a bit. I moved to a more expensive area to get them into a good school because it's important to me.

I’m going through this at the moment. My STB EXH wants to move over the other side of town because he finds the area where we live ‘depressing’ plus he can not afford to buy me out. I don’t particularly want to stay in our family home but it would cost me a lot more to sell and buy somewhere new, I can absolutely buy him out and the children’s school is just a few streets away. However, although biting him out seems like the most sensible option he doesn’t want me to do this because he doesn’t feel I should benefit from all the painting and decorating he did in the house seven years ago! I’m not sure what to do. Hoping a solicitor will help me to navigate this