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Divorce/separation

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Found my husband messaging women after agreeing to work on things

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Cocomandarin · 30/06/2026 17:09

So I just found my husband messaging women on an app that is apparently for gaming. However the content was not about gaming. I’m totally devastated.

This was the day after we had agreed to work on things, he suggested it. things have been really tough for our family for reasons I won’t mention to try and stay anon. He has been an absolute menace to live with. I had had enough and said we should separate but after discussing it he said it’s because of everything that’s gone on and he’s lost himself. He agreed to move out for a while for him to get his mental health on track (family life is extremely full on at home) I obviously like a mug said ok and we would work through this. Baring in mind I’m absolutely burnt out myself with it all.

I just can’t believe I’ve taken all of it as gospel meanwhile he had time to tell this person ‘sounds like you need looking after’ and ‘you should come to the uk you’d enjoy it 😉’

i feel like I’m in shock right now. I haven’t eaten in two days. Running on fumes. I’m just looking for advice from people who have been there before. I am going to come out worst in divorce as I have put career on hold for caring responsibilities.

i am going to see a legal advisor when I can think straight. I just don’t know what to do and really don’t want to give in again. I’m not good with uncertainty and I want to know how long this feeling lasts. I feel numb. And sadly feel like I’m not surprised as self esteem has got so low.

OP posts:
Devilsmommy · 30/06/2026 21:15

I'm so sorry he's done this to you. And especially at a time where life is kicking your arse. You know that leaving him is the right thing to do so definitely seek legal advice so that you're not shafted in the divorce. Hopefully someone comes along with experience and advice for you. Handhold from me 😊💐

TheClocksFast · 30/06/2026 22:02

Really sorry you’re going through this x

AnonymityAnonymity · 02/07/2026 07:39

He has played a very dirty trick on you OP.
Stay strong and go ahead with your plan to get legal advice.
Your self esteem will improve drastically when you extricate yourself from this relationship.
Best wishes.

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