Want to separate but scared of reaction

[Anon1234567891]

I know I need to separate from my husband but I’m scared of his reaction. He’s not ever been violent but when I told him to show me messages to another woman earlier this year he got verbally aggressive and said “you don’t want to threaten me” and the look in his eyes was scary. I don’t know if this is how people normally react but it was such a flip for him so shocked me. I haven’t seen a solicitor yet but I can’t afford to move out so would I have to live with him until it’s sorted to get my share?

My soon to be ex threatened to be awful if I divorced him and he’s stuck to that. What he did was threaten you so may be talk to the police and just log it. Just facts and how it made you feel.

You do need to prepare yourself as best you can.

Have you made sure you have no joint accounts?

Copy any relevant papers. Make sure your passport etc are somewhere safe.

Start quietly gathering together some emergency cash and store it and some essentials like clothes and toiletries with someone close by (in case you just need to get out).

I would speak to a domestic abuse charity and ask for advice. Trust your instincts.

Keep your phone fully charged and with you at all times.

whats your housing situation?

Sorry. You have said you’ll have to live with him until you get your share. I’m over a year down the line - still no settlement. He will delay. Lots of women I talk to, it’s taken years. So figuring out a short term solution that means you can stay elsewhere might be wise? He won’t be nice.

We own the house jointly. I enquired about uc today and although it seemed to be enough to live on short term when I spoke to an estate agent they seemed to say I’d need a lot more but would need this size house but the housing element isn’t anywhere near the actual rent.