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Divorce/separation

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Should I move closer to family after separation?

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Confuzzzled · 25/06/2026 19:11

Hi all, me and ex split in April and I've been living in the same house with our two year old DS while I look for somewhere to live (I have money from him buying me out but been looking for somewhere to rent for now just to get out of here quicker). My son has ASD and I've been trying to find a house in the same area for his support to continue as he is starting speech therapy in 2 weeks and about to start school in September. But the rent prices are too high and ex is only wanting to give me half of the maintenance he should be as he's paying for our dogs chemo even though the vet said he's gonna die anyway but that's another story! 500 quid a month he's paying for that. Anyway he decided to go mad earlier and said I'm gonna be 'stuck there' because I'm struggling to find somewhere and told me I need to start paying towards the bills even though I have viewings lined up and would be out of here in the next 2-3 weeks ideally. My family really want me to move half hour away back home where all my support is and just put my son in school there.

I have no family or friends in current area. Reasons we split are endless but he turned as soon as we had DS and started calling me bipolar for being hormonal, 'undermining' him everytime I speak my mind and I just had enough. No affection, silent treatment, wanting to make all the decisions...the list is endless at this point.

I've literally just packed me bags and told my mother I'll be going to live with her, me and my son will be on a blow up mattress on the floor for a few weeks but surely it's better than being around this arguing? He's non verbal but I know the signs of when he's stressed and he's such a gentle soul he doesn't deserve this. Ex is already talking about court because I suggested 2 nights a week which I'll already worry about because he does nothing with him now apart from a Friday when I'm in the office.

I can't get my head around such a cold, heartless man. Happy to see me and my son go and not a care in the world, but will continue to make my life hell. Not sure of the point of this post but I'm in tears my life has come to this. I need a fresh start for me and my boy. Do you think I'm doing the right thing moving to be closer to family and sorting DS' support and school out afterwards? I'm so tired of this.

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PersephoneParlormaid · 26/06/2026 06:47

Yes, go home. It might be difficult initially, but you’ll get there.

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